Hypothetically, if you were texting a girl you love and she was being down on herself, so you try to flatter her and shower her with compliments, and then she responds with "No, I'm not any of those things, you need to stop"
What, hypothetically, the f.uck just happened?
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Okay but hypothetically she is the one who hit me up, not the other way around.
She literally hit me up to say "Hey I'm having a bad day and I'm going to ruin yours now"
Hypothetically, just opening a hypothetical, honest line of communication about how you hypothetically feel about things hypothetically solves most hypothetical issues.
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women shouldn't get a free pass
being careful with people who are upset about something serious is a good idea in general but women shouldn't get a free pass
and they're also not a different species like lono seems to think
edit: what lady said but also if she won't tell you then I think you should tell her you're going to let her be because there's nothing you can do about it. And later, tell her she hurt your feelings. Or tell her she hurt your feelings now. I don't know. Idk people.
Oh and "they" don't get a free pass to act like this. People shouldn't take their frustrations out on others. When a person (man, woman, who cares) is upset, it's hardly the best time to tell them though. It won't work. Someone is already upset. Let it be for now, once you actually see her and have a normal conversation you're well within your rights to tell her that you don't appreciate being shut down when you're just trying to help.
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Hypothetically, I would not even consider speaking to her again until she decides she wants to speak to me.
Also hypothetically, she's not going to tell me what is wrong. She's just like that.
To be honest: yes. "If there's anything I can do for you to support you, please let me know." Until a proper answer shows up - well you offered your help, didn't you? Just let her be.
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It's not fair that women get a free pass to act like this.
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"please tell me what is actually wrong because I want to be there for you and if I don't know then there's no point in it"
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i like how every female in this thread has agreed with what i've said in one way or another. take me seriously you idiot
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@LadyNemesis
Hypothetically I can tell you right now that she is not going to f.ucking tell me what is actually wrong. That's why I tried to flatter her. What the f.uck else can I do, ignore her?
This could mean a lot of things, you're not being very specific.
Maybe it means that she feels the compliments you give her, are nonsense.
Like, telling a super extraverted and chatty girl that you 'love how she's always so calm and thoughtful'. She could feel you don't really know her at all.
Or telling a girl that feels very awkward in social situations and absolutely hates meeting new groups, that she's 'the life of any party'. She could feel you don't really know her at all.
It could also mean that she thinks that what you say, is highly irrelevant to the situation. She: pissed off because her boss yelled at her for no good reason. You: "but you're a great cook and your hair always looks so shiny". No match to the situation at hand, she doesn't feel supported. She doesn't feel you're listening.
It could ALSO mean that she feels you spam her with compliments and that it doesn't feel genuine to her anymore. You; every other hour: 'omg I love you so much you're the best thing that ever happened to me you're beautiful and lovable and just GREAT you know'. It's just.. too much.
If she is a rather normal and ok person it probably has something to do with her not feeling heard/ listened to/ supported. Maybe she just wants you to actually listen instead of giving her lots of compliments.
Or maybe she's just a negative person that wants to dwell in her own misery and doesn't like people cheering her up. That's also a possibility and then you might want to reconsider your relationship anyways. How much fun is that to be around?
Whatever it is; an actual conversation (you know, where you can hear each others' voices) is most often a better way than to just keep sending messages.
Oh, and try to see her as a person, instead of an alien from another planet that's hard to understand just because she's a woman. Men and women aren't all THAT different in the end.
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actually i just want you instead u are much cuter than stinky tatami
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i will win the honor of being your waifu from fatami
That is the point, men just talk and tell you what they actually want or mean or whatever. Not girls though. Anyways, hope you won't have such problems with women in the future.
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be my waifu
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on a related note why do some people assume that any guys with female friends are trying to bang them
should i say this is just one gender because it's not and all people suck
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understanding men
why do some straight guys think that just because someone's gay that automatically assumes that that gay guy is attracted to them?
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You're the only waifu I want, empire
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I understand men just fine. If it gets mouthy with you you punch it. Men are simple.
