Hypothetically, if you were texting a girl you love and she was being down on herself, so you try to flatter her and shower her with compliments, and then she responds with "No, I'm not any of those things, you need to stop"
What, hypothetically, the f.uck just happened?
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tatami's not as good at jotto as i am i bet
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hi jess <3
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it sort of sounds like you're just assuming she's not going to be open with you or explain herself or listen. I know I'm not the person you're likely to want to listen to here due to lack of wisdom about it but if nothing else listen to this part:
From the bottom of my heart I believe you should try approaching her, openly, and saying to her what you've said in this thread before just giving up on her. I don't know her or your relationship or how important it is to you but there's no way it'll ever work with anyone if you don't give them the chance to explain themselves, and
getting into a fight (when she's not already miserable, so again, in person and not right now) is better than giving up entirely on a person.
I mean just give it time, let her vent/be upset and irrational for a bit. Sometimes you text someone thinking you want to talk and it turns out you really shouldn't have. Space does wonders.
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IDK I'm thinking I'm done with her right now, if she won't even tell me what she is upset about and she doesn't like it when I try to be there for her without knowing the situation, I don't know what the f.uck she is expecting me to do.
This thread is now about setting Sonseray up on a blind Jotto date.
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well i mean i thought you said you tried being open already and it didn't work
refusing to discuss things is what i've been trying to say I don't think you should do, in the long run anyway. But not talking to her via text when she's emotional -- yeah, good idea.
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People's moods change. People have misunderstandings. People make mistakes. Lono seems to think that's just a "girl" thing, although it's possible this particular expression of it might have to do with hormones associated with (adolescent, at least) females and also the fact that they do get a pass for things sometimes compared to men and never learn better (I don't know whether that's true or not). I definitely disagree with you on tatami's advice being disney-derived and I find it incredibly infuriating when people in my life refuse to be honest with me, personally. It's one thing with strangers you won't know in the long term but it's a different thing entirely when it's a loved one or close friend.
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It's not like I've been discussing the intricacies of our relationship via text message like some of you guys seem to think. I started ignoring her immediately after she said "No, I'm not any of those things, you need to stop" and could not have possibly expected the conversation to take that turn in the first place.
Hello dear friend,it has been studied and proven by doctors Dre and Dogg that bi'tches aint sh'it but hoes and tricks. The proper way to deal with such issue is to treat them(b1tches) like hoes and tricks. Being nice doesnt work these days,sorry.
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Yeah I don't think it is going to work
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it seems like a temporary thing that you need to deal with later and talking to her in person about it rather than via text sounds like a good idea.
But if you can't get her to be sincere with you later, then I don't see how your relationship can work.
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At least u care abt me =D
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Okay I'm not talking about it via text messages with her anymore, I'm ignoring her now.
I saw her two days ago and we were great. Clearly this has caught me by surprise.
I'm not sure "listen and ask questions" is going to solve this.
I fully agree with Saika that it's better to stop texting for now :)) Oh and don't talk about this whole thing with just text messages either. Just, you know, talk. And listen. And ask questions. And such.
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I mean she also told me she loves me right before she got upset.
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You could be some emotionel support for her ? idk your relationship with her so i cant really say much beside you probably should not text her for today and ask her how she feels next day
