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Why we shouldn't use the R-word

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"Do not call something you don't like "Redacted". By calling something "Redacted", you are essentially saying an undesirable object or event is the same as someone with intellectual, developmental, or physical disabilities. This invalidates feelings and the identities of people with disabilities and puts them in a position where they are used to describe something that is considered to be flawed, useless, or stupid. It also makes YOU look flawed, useless and stupid by using such an uncool term. There are a ton of great words you can use instead to describe things, people, and situations that anger or annoy you.

For example: If something is a bad idea, you can use words such as dense, useless, obtuse, pathetic, or vapid. Don't forget terms like jackass or bonehead. Or make up snappy new insults. Swearing may be okay, but might make you look less impressive.

If someone or something angers you, use words like contemptible, enraging, evil, infuriating, horrible, irrational, rage-inducing. If someone or something is disgusting, try using nasty, gross, foul, nauseating, skeevy, repellent, repulsive, vomitous or terrible instead."

"The historical context of the word is important to know. People with disabilities have been treated poorly, discriminated against, abused, and neglected in the past and even today. Just changing the way you speak and avoiding using the term can make a difference for people with disabilities today and in the future."

"…support the elimination of the derogatory use of the r-word from everyday speech and promote the acceptance and inclusion of people with intellectual disabilities."

Short video: https://youtu.be/T549VoLca_Q

225 other word substitutes: http://specialchildren.about.com/od/disabilityrights/ss/225-Subsitutes-For-The-R-Word.htm#step2

Reading material: http://www.r-word.org/r-word-effects-of-the-word.aspx

Please keep on-topic or your posts will be deleted.

Is the R-Word acceptable to use? (Please do not vote unless you have read the OP/reading material)
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No
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Yes
over 8 years
i'd like it if the r word went the same way the word idiot did, where people kept using it but it was dissociated with the mentally challenged
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Retti says

im pretty sure rutab is someone who would vote for bernie, actually


I am definitely not.
deletedover 8 years

Togepi says

Actually, do let it bother you. People that sit idly by are the ones that don't invoke change and are complacent was mediocrity. You just have to find a way to talk to them without being condescending; that's the key.


but is it worth it for your own quality of life go down because you're trying to change things you can't?
over 8 years

roadman says


cub says


Togepi says

I like how passionate you are about this. I know that you are going to be able to do some real good outside of this site. :)


people who are passionate on the internet making a change in the actual world?


What's the 'actual world'?


i think it's ironic to feign ignorance in this of all topics
over 8 years

roadman says


cub says


Togepi says

I like how passionate you are about this. I know that you are going to be able to do some real good outside of this site. :)


people who are passionate on the internet making a change in the actual world?


What's the 'actual world'?


Good question.
over 8 years

Ryuko says


rutab says

I do not think "casual ableism" is a serious as you are portraying it to be.


yeah things must be looking pretty swell for you on your pre-bought road to republican success


He was just nice to you and you attacked him. I mean... This might be why you have such a hard time getting people on your side.
deletedover 8 years
Yes. I really do hope that I am on my way to a successful life, and I hope you are too.
over 8 years

Retti says

im pretty sure rutab is someone who would vote for bernie, actually


lol
deletedover 8 years
im pretty sure rutab is someone who would vote for bernie, actually
over 8 years
Actually, do let it bother you. People that sit idly by are the ones that don't invoke change and are complacent was mediocrity. You just have to find a way to talk to them without being condescending; that's the key.
over 8 years

cub says


Togepi says

I like how passionate you are about this. I know that you are going to be able to do some real good outside of this site. :)


people who are passionate on the internet making a change in the actual world?


What's the 'actual world'?
over 8 years

rutab says

I do not think "casual ableism" is a serious as you are portraying it to be.


yeah things must be looking pretty swell for you on your pre-bought road to republican success
over 8 years

Togepi says

I like how passionate you are about this. I know that you are going to be able to do some real good outside of this site. :)


people who are passionate on the internet making a change in the actual world?
over 8 years

johnreid says

Any form of hate speech or hateful language based on race, sexual orientation, gender identity, religion, mental capabilities, and other personal circumstances. Using slurs will result in an automatic violation, regardless of intention or context.

Do the mods have an exhaustive list of slurs btw?


Not yet. I've been round the clock with stuff as it stands.
deletedover 8 years

Ryuko says

yeah right. i dont even have the guts to tell my smash friends to stop. i just sit there getting mad because im socially f8cking inept


dont let it bother you. the world doesn't have to be this awful place where you need to right every wrong, they're still people and you even called them friends aside from that
deletedover 8 years
Connor, I also want to say I honestly do respect your opinion and enthusiasm about this issue. I really do. I think standing up for your opinion is incredibly important whether anyone disagrees with you or not.

Although I disagree with you, I completely understand your point of view, and why it is so dear and close to you.

I do not think "casual ableism" is a serious as you are portraying it to be.
over 8 years

Ryuko says

yeah right. i dont even have the guts to tell my smash friends to stop. i just sit there getting mad because im socially f8cking inept


This might be a convo we can have elsewhere.
over 8 years
Any form of hate speech or hateful language based on race, sexual orientation, gender identity, religion, mental capabilities, and other personal circumstances. Using slurs will result in an automatic violation, regardless of intention or context.

Do the mods have an exhaustive list of slurs btw?
over 8 years

pereking says

where i'm from the r word is synonymous to the word dumb


hey i think we might be from the same planet
over 8 years
yeah right. i dont even have the guts to tell my smash friends to stop. i just sit there getting mad because im socially f8cking inept
deletedover 8 years
ok well i ate half a pizza but i ate the other half like 3 and a half hours ago!!
over 8 years

Ryuko says


Ryuko says

this stuff legit p1sses me off everywhere i go. my mum works with people with mental disabilities and almost all of her department got made redundantvbecause of all the cuts the tories put in place and there's not enough staff to handle all the patients they have to deal with. basically all those people who can't look after themselves have no one to look after them and my mum couldn't do it any more because it was far too much work and stress so even she got driven out of the job


this is relevant to this discussion because casual ableism contributes to people not caring about the mentally disabled which leads to them not caring about the cuts which leads to them voting f8cking tories which leads to this exact situation

so yeah. using slurs "isn't that bad guys"


I like how passionate you are about this. I know that you are going to be able to do some real good outside of this site. :)
deletedover 8 years
i speak for rutab when i say that deep down we're just hateful monsters with the sole life goal of making people angry and uncomfortable
over 8 years
The violation is called Hateful Comments, I think it should probably be given for comments that are hateful. Seems to make sense to me.

Or am I just a r word.
over 8 years

Ryuko says

this stuff legit p1sses me off everywhere i go. my mum works with people with mental disabilities and almost all of her department got made redundantvbecause of all the cuts the tories put in place and there's not enough staff to handle all the patients they have to deal with. basically all those people who can't look after themselves have no one to look after them and my mum couldn't do it any more because it was far too much work and stress so even she got driven out of the job


this is relevant to this discussion because casual ableism contributes to people not caring about the mentally disabled which leads to them not caring about the cuts which leads to them voting f8cking tories which leads to this exact situation

so yeah. using slurs "isn't that bad guys"