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Why we shouldn't use the R-word

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"Do not call something you don't like "Redacted". By calling something "Redacted", you are essentially saying an undesirable object or event is the same as someone with intellectual, developmental, or physical disabilities. This invalidates feelings and the identities of people with disabilities and puts them in a position where they are used to describe something that is considered to be flawed, useless, or stupid. It also makes YOU look flawed, useless and stupid by using such an uncool term. There are a ton of great words you can use instead to describe things, people, and situations that anger or annoy you.

For example: If something is a bad idea, you can use words such as dense, useless, obtuse, pathetic, or vapid. Don't forget terms like jackass or bonehead. Or make up snappy new insults. Swearing may be okay, but might make you look less impressive.

If someone or something angers you, use words like contemptible, enraging, evil, infuriating, horrible, irrational, rage-inducing. If someone or something is disgusting, try using nasty, gross, foul, nauseating, skeevy, repellent, repulsive, vomitous or terrible instead."

"The historical context of the word is important to know. People with disabilities have been treated poorly, discriminated against, abused, and neglected in the past and even today. Just changing the way you speak and avoiding using the term can make a difference for people with disabilities today and in the future."

"…support the elimination of the derogatory use of the r-word from everyday speech and promote the acceptance and inclusion of people with intellectual disabilities."

Short video: https://youtu.be/T549VoLca_Q

225 other word substitutes: http://specialchildren.about.com/od/disabilityrights/ss/225-Subsitutes-For-The-R-Word.htm#step2

Reading material: http://www.r-word.org/r-word-effects-of-the-word.aspx

Please keep on-topic or your posts will be deleted.

Is the R-Word acceptable to use? (Please do not vote unless you have read the OP/reading material)
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No
40
Yes
over 8 years
let's not pretend that anyone mods for any reason than the circlejerk lol
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New Rule:

You are only allowed to talk to people if they're in your mod circle, otherwise making a separate chat to keep friendly relations is unacceptable
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Retti says

Meanwhile..




https://epicmafia.com/report?status=closed&reporter=&reported=roadman

don't you mean 16 reasons?
over 8 years
what do you suggest the middle ground is?
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Ryuko says

is there a middle ground when you try to give someone who happens to be on a violation leash an x-rated violation for posting an image with visible genitals and semen and having it be overturned without allowing for further discussion?

no, it's simply just not possible


yea there is
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rutab says


Ryuko says

especially when they threaten and essentially destroy one of your favourite social circles just by being present


Solution:

make a new skype chat????

over 8 years

moon says


Ryuko says

especially when they threaten and essentially destroy one of your favourite social circles just by being present


if you're viewing mod chat as a social circle you're entitled to you're looking at modding completely wrong


i didn't say i was entitled to it. i just said i wanted to keep it
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Meanwhile..

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is there a middle ground when you try to give someone who happens to be on a violation leash and harrold's friend an x-rated violation for posting an image with visible genitals and semen and having it be overturned without allowing for further discussion?

no, it's simply just not possible
over 8 years

Ryuko says

especially when they threaten and essentially destroy one of your favourite social circles just by being present


if you're viewing mod chat as a social circle you're entitled to you're looking at modding completely wrong
over 8 years
this turned from discussing the r-word to a connor therapy session
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lad says

I don't think meeting someone in the middle equats to sucking up to them


there's no middle ground. he wants to make things tolerated that shouldn't be, so that he and his friends can use them in the way shown in that image. i'm not going to pretend it's acceptable
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Ryuko says

especially when they threaten and essentially destroy one of your favourite social circles just by being present


Solution:

make a new skype chat????
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And we've seen some excruciatingly cringeworthy asskissing in the past two to three days
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lad says

I don't think meeting someone in the middle equats to sucking up to them


Sounds like intolerance to me.
over 8 years
especially when they threaten and essentially destroy one of your favourite social circles just by being present
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I don't think meeting someone in the middle equats to sucking up to them
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here's my best shot
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roadman says

But Connor, don't you think it says quite a lot about you if you'd rather go through my history to dig up a montage like that, disrespect me at every turn, insult me any time I try to help you, and refuse point blank to meet me in the middle about things, rather than you know - just try to make it work?

It's a lot easier for your soul if you just get over things.


disagree. i think "not willing to put up with a jerk's bullsh1t" is more admiral than sucking up to them. just imho
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I'll be the last person to agree with Harry but it really is @Connor
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mist says


rutab says

I see this less as offensive and more has Harry letting loose and having a good time


i couldn't find an anime girl gif an appropriate reaction to this post


If you're out with good friends or having a good time with a group of people you've been around for a long time, how censored are you?
over 8 years

Ryuko says


roadman says


Ryuko says

yeah kerry got the blame for collecting it even tho it was me


And abc.


abc got a hold of it, abc was not involved


But Connor, don't you think it says quite a lot about you if you'd rather go through my history to dig up a montage like that, disrespect me at every turn, insult me any time I try to help you, and refuse point blank to meet me in the middle about things, rather than you know - just try to make it work?

It's a lot easier for your soul if you just get over things.
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rutab says

I see this less as offensive and more has Harry letting loose and having a good time


i couldn't find an anime girl gif an appropriate reaction to this post
over 8 years

moon says

lol did you send this to lucid?


no, lucid made it clear he wasn't gonna listen to anything i said after harrold literally ignored p*rn being posted to save his friend so i just didn't bother
over 8 years
A lot of those screenshots have nothing to do with your definition of jerk.