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Why we shouldn't use the R-word

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"Do not call something you don't like "Redacted". By calling something "Redacted", you are essentially saying an undesirable object or event is the same as someone with intellectual, developmental, or physical disabilities. This invalidates feelings and the identities of people with disabilities and puts them in a position where they are used to describe something that is considered to be flawed, useless, or stupid. It also makes YOU look flawed, useless and stupid by using such an uncool term. There are a ton of great words you can use instead to describe things, people, and situations that anger or annoy you.

For example: If something is a bad idea, you can use words such as dense, useless, obtuse, pathetic, or vapid. Don't forget terms like jackass or bonehead. Or make up snappy new insults. Swearing may be okay, but might make you look less impressive.

If someone or something angers you, use words like contemptible, enraging, evil, infuriating, horrible, irrational, rage-inducing. If someone or something is disgusting, try using nasty, gross, foul, nauseating, skeevy, repellent, repulsive, vomitous or terrible instead."

"The historical context of the word is important to know. People with disabilities have been treated poorly, discriminated against, abused, and neglected in the past and even today. Just changing the way you speak and avoiding using the term can make a difference for people with disabilities today and in the future."

"…support the elimination of the derogatory use of the r-word from everyday speech and promote the acceptance and inclusion of people with intellectual disabilities."

Short video: https://youtu.be/T549VoLca_Q

225 other word substitutes: http://specialchildren.about.com/od/disabilityrights/ss/225-Subsitutes-For-The-R-Word.htm#step2

Reading material: http://www.r-word.org/r-word-effects-of-the-word.aspx

Please keep on-topic or your posts will be deleted.

Is the R-Word acceptable to use? (Please do not vote unless you have read the OP/reading material)
66
No
40
Yes
over 8 years
people who say mean things are evil
over 8 years

roadman says


Ryuko says

yeah kerry got the blame for collecting it even tho it was me


And abc.


abc got a hold of it, abc was not involved
over 8 years
hey how do i get that handy dandy report helper
over 8 years
Good God that image is actually giving me a headache from me rolling my eyes so much.
deletedover 8 years
I am like 99% sure he is not a hateful person just because he really is
over 8 years

Ryuko says


Retti says

then that's that. you didn't try to see his side and maybe from your perspective he didn't try to see yours. if that's what you chose then you have to live with that, though sorry if its making you a bit down





lol did you send this to lucid?
deletedover 8 years
I see this less as offensive and more has Harry letting loose and having a good time
over 8 years

Ryuko says

yeah kerry got the blame for collecting it even tho it was me


And abc.
over 8 years
hammers were dropped

connor baited us all here tonight with a pretense of "hc arguing" then bam
deletedover 8 years
over 8 years
It's not fair to limit the person that Harry is to that image though. He has such a good heart.
over 8 years

rutab says

I like how Connor put "You're still a wet towel" on list of things to criticize him on lol


ya that was amusing to me cuz it was actually like the third thing he posted when he came back. it was a half joke
over 8 years
roadman is a cool dude
deletedover 8 years

Ryuko says


Retti says

then that's that. you didn't try to see his side and maybe from your perspective he didn't try to see yours. if that's what you chose then you have to live with that, though sorry if its making you a bit down





holy
deletedover 8 years
I like how Connor put "You're still a wet towel" on list of things to criticize him on lol
over 8 years
yeah kerry got the blame for collecting it even tho it was me
over 8 years
Yeah even I can't defend Harry about the things he says, but I know that he isn't a bad person.
over 8 years

rutab says

Cub:


Ryuko - Connor
projectmatt - pjm
Bae - Kerry
hardeffingworker - Ian
roadman - Harry

I think that's it for unknowns in this thread


i actually don't know who iad is, either
deletedover 8 years

Ryuko says


Retti says

then that's that. you didn't try to see his side and maybe from your perspective he didn't try to see yours. if that's what you chose then you have to live with that, though sorry if its making you a bit down





uh..im surprised you spent the time complying this
deletedover 8 years
I never said it was his job, he can actually change the way people behave for the better but with the way he is he won't be able to.
over 8 years
i am the almighty arbiter of truth, kneel mortals before my judgement
over 8 years
Oh sh*t we've got graphics!!
deletedover 8 years
One time, I was sitting in class, and someone used the r-word casually and the girl beside me, who happens to have a severe learning disability broke down into tears. I think she cried for like five minutes straight. It was just so raw and jarring that I would never, ever consider using that word again.

I think its important to consider that some of us don't have experiences like that. People legitimately don't know realize that word can be so hurtful, and that's not their fault.

Its really important to be patient with people who use the word without thinking about it. They're not bigots, or even necessarily ignorant, they just lack that experience. And that's okay. I just hope people think before they use the word, because it really does cut deep.
deletedover 8 years
Cub:


Ryuko - Connor
projectmatt - pjm
Bae - Kerry
hardeffingworker - Ian
roadman - Harry

I think that's it for unknowns in this thread
over 8 years
It's not anyone's job to bring out the good in people. Once everyone realizes most people are sh*t, you will be in a better place.