Do you believe that physically disciplining a child is acceptable and an efficient way to teach them between right and wrong?
I would think fear can be a very effective and persuasive tool, but I don't think it should be applied to a parent and child dynamic. I just don't like the idea of hitting kids.
there's a difference between beating a kid and spanking a kid. Spanking a kid is one thing, beating the sh!t out of them is a totally different thing. I think knowing that there are immediate consequences if you do something that you really know you shouldn't isn't a bad thing for a kid. I got spankedas a kid and it wasn't in the least bit traumatizing, it just gave me a really good reason not to act out.
regardless of the morality, there are plenty of studies out there that simply prove it as ineffective.
I grew up around a lot of kids whose parents beat them, but my parents never so much as laid a finger on me. many of them resent their parents, waiting to reach an age where they’d leave the house and never return. though there are some who would take the same approach with their children, and that’s fine. except it’s not very effective. there are much better parenting methods, and other means of instilling your child with the ability to deal with how rough life can get.
there’s also the cultural phenomenon of dads being emotionally disconnected from their children, which can only cause more distance and resentment. that’s kind of a massive problem
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My gran used to hit me when I was growing up as a way to discipline me, and I don't look back on it as it was child abuse or anything negative. It wasn't something that happened very often because I learned quickly. However, I choose not to psychically discipline my children because I feel there are more effective ways. That doesn't mean I think what my gran did was wrong or in any way child abuse. If a parent chooses to discipline their child a certain way I'm not going to judge that.
My grandma whooped my butt every day almost. I have manners because I was forced to have them. I think a big part of the reason why kids are so spoiled and bad today is because everything is child abuse -_- My grandma used to hit me with a belt, wooden spoon, hanger, shoe, whatever she got her hands on. Sometimes I really deserved it.
My oldest son is 7 and he's only received two spankings. The last was when he was 3 - and he learned from that spanking. Idk, I guess it's different for each parent and child but it worked for me.
There is a difference between taking your day out on your child and educating him. It is not my place to tell a parent how to educate their child but if what you're doing is striking your child out of anger and not in a controlled composed state with a certain goal in mind you are wrong.
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This is a surprisingly decent thread with reasonable responses. Good work guys!
