Do you believe that physically disciplining a child is acceptable and an efficient way to teach them between right and wrong?
I would think fear can be a very effective and persuasive tool, but I don't think it should be applied to a parent and child dynamic. I just don't like the idea of hitting kids.
no, sometimes children can not process why the reason is important. The thought process may make complete sense and the reasoning would be good enough to put forward to any other adult, but to a child, going "do not drink this bottle of liquid, you might die" is not going to cut it. You'll have to explain the entire concept of death- why, how, what happens after etc. for the child to be able to understand it. A little physical discipline just simplifies it to a language the child understands, and will later come to know more about.
damn lmao you're all little brats if an adult telling you not to do something and then explaining why it was dangerous wasn't a good enough reason not to do it hahahah
I think it’s a little self righteous to be condescendingly correcting mothers on how they should be raising their kids, particularly from us children-less ppl. regardless of my personal stance, it isn’t really right to talk down to Ivana when many of us don’t even come from a place of parenting experience
nevertheless, I won’t hit my kids because a) I was personally disciplined with different methods, and b) many of those around me who were beaten as children either grew up with a lack of self-empowerment, an inferiority complex, or became resentful children. like I said, there are endlessly more effective styles of parenting and disciplining that are supported by plenty of credible psychological testing. that said, i am not a parent, and refuse to encroach on any actual parents on here
good thread, btw
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i don't agree w spanking and i don't plan on using it on my future kids (hell maybe that'll change when i have kids who knows) but it definitely doesn't equate to child abuse and anyone saying it does is pretty ridiculous and clearly doesn't know what actual abuse is
But anyway, everyone is entitled to their own form of parenting. One is absolutely allowed to do what one seems fit. There is a very clear difference between using the stick as a representative of consequences and direct child abuse.
the issue is not the second bit of your stupid miscontrual; Ivana clearly meant she'd hit her boy in order to stop him from randomly walking onto traffic and have something worse happen.
if you tell a child "the stove is hot", nine out of ten children will make sure they touch it just out of childlike curiousity. Hitting them simplifies the entire ordeal to "don't touch", because now they've seen consequences before doing it.
I am a fuken rabbit. humans are the intelligent but ignorant idiots who prefer to defy nature and fk the harmony and fk the peace and have all they want for themselves only to evolve into petty, selfish, lazy egomaniacs who assume that everything they want is automatically theirs
No wonder we're raising an entire generation of snowflakes lol the few times I've been hit as a child I can say I 100% deserved it and no amount of negative reinforcement would've been as effective at getting me to behave
why even would you hit your kid for running in the street?? is it really that hard to use words ??? if it's really that difficult to make a mental investment to understand your child then you really shouldn't have kids
The only two times I ever spanked my son, he received hugs and love from me afterwards and I explained why I had to spank him. Surprisingly, he understood, apologized, and I haven't had an issue since. Slight fear is ok. Don't confuse discipline with child abuse.
Also, you guys are arguing with an actual parent in Ivana. Armchair parents, especially college kids, have no sense of reality when it comes to many things, this included. Wisdom comes with age is said for a reason.
