Kerry says

it taught you that it's okay to hit a young defenceless child if they misbehave

no it taught me not to be a spoilt little brat.

Abuse doesn't help children at all. I've helped take care of children and the most effective way to deal with them is to be understanding and patient.

You do need to be strict though. To discipline a child normally a rewarding or restricting system works.If they're bad you take away things that they like (ex. videogames, computer, candy, any treat.)IF they do good you reward them.

I have a nephew that's 5 years old and when he studied with my mom she would lose her patience because he wasn't doing well and would yell at him and call him dumb. Sometimes she would pull on the bit of hair next to his ear. This didn't help him learn, all it did was make him dislike her.

When I helped him study I didn't yell at him or hit him. I was patient and even tried to make it fun for him to learn. He was learning the ABCs and managed to learn more in a day than what he learned with my mom in a week. (I used alphabet fridge magnets and made it a game to point out each alphabet letter I called out.) Songs and interactive games was what helped my nephew learn.
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Then again my dad used to hit my hands with a belt but that was only if I did something REALLY bad so it was rare.It also made me not want to do it again. He was a really nice person and a good father overall though.

But anyways, don't hit your children. Peach is right, it'll only cause them to fear you.

Whoops sorry, didn't mean to leave the impression that it was okay to abuse animals.

What I mean is that being human, your child should be able to understand and be taught consequences in more sophisticated ways than just training Pavlovian responses - that respect is earned by wisdom rather than strength.

Some bolloсks like that anyway

Harkinian says

Serious response though, disciplining through use of reason is surely always the preferable option, and if it's a lesson worth learning then IMO it should be able to be taught without resorting to physical violence.

I mean they're your kid not your dog after all.

dogs shouldn't be hit either :/

Serious response though, disciplining through use of reason is surely always the preferable option, and if it's a lesson worth learning then IMO it should be able to be taught without resorting to physical violence.

I mean they're your kid not your dog after all.

it taught you that it's okay to hit a young defenceless child if they misbehave

it should be a parents duty to be able to differentiate where the border is. i was hit when i missbehaved, i didnt think it was abuse then and looking back at it i would never say my parents abused me.

it did stop me from missbehaving and it taught be to be respectful towards my parents. hell I'd never talk ill abbout them here even with their faults.

whats a brain without common sense

there is compelling evidence out there to say physical punishment is ineffective. if anything, the negative stimuli can result in worse behaviour

it's pretty sad that people still think that violence is a working method to ingrain good behaviour into a child. :(

some people would argue that it only works on some kids but not on others.

what are our thoughts on adults who have experienced being raised through corporal punishment practices and vouch for their effectiveness?

you could argue that another adult who has experienced the same thing would vouch that it didn't work for them, but where does that leave us then?

calciumkid says

i think its important to understand whats abuse and whats just a slap on the wrist.

but most of u internet freaks need to play the victim card in every walk of life so i doubt it.

Do you believe that the average person can differentiate between the two? Because if so, you're giving them too much credit. Smacking your kids when they're bad just logically doesn't sound right to me. It teaches your children by example that violence can be the answer to your frustrations at time. At the same time though, the number of families that smack their children have gone down and disrespect amongst the youngins has gone up.

So I'm really on the wall on this one. I guess I would lean against it to minimize risk of having a child grow up to be aggressive from environment.

i think its important to understand whats abuse and whats just a slap on the wrist.

but most of u internet freaks need to play the victim card in every walk of life so i doubt it.

something that's honestly beyond fu9cked up is those people that think hitting kids is some kinda personal family matter. intentionally trying to hide your abuse huh reeeeal slick

i was abused growing up and look at how i turned out lol. i will never hit my kids

Kids should hit their parents.

ya hitting kids so they grow up to think that hitting kids is normal is bloody brilliant

Corporal Punishment might be my favourite episode of Blackadder ever actually.

if it seems intuitively ugly to hit a child, know that it’s a wholly ineffective means of raising empowered and self-sufficient children. see psychological studies on authoritative vs authoritarian parenting styles

corporal punishment is terrible and ineffective in everything but causing children to fear their parents and perpetuating cycles of abuse