I'll definitely try and figure out some more stuff to do. My schedule has been pretty hectic lately with other stuff but I'm going to have to make time for new things because I really do think it will help. Thank you <3
Lycii, since it seems like you need out of there STAT, temporarily stay with your grandparents. Have a game plan that you'll find a roomate in a certain amount of time. Going back home is cruddy and a lot of people don't want to fall back on that option but that's what family is for. Use it to your advantage until you get your feet on the ground.
And yes, the pain subsides. I agree with the comment about joining a gym. It keeps you busy and you'll be even hawter as fack. It also releases chemicals and makes you feel better. I don't recommend staying at home. Epicmafia isn't going to help, being out is. You won't feel like doing anything for a while- do it anyway. The worst thing you can do is stay stagnant.
You seem to care too much about other people which is really disturbing. I'd recommend someone as unstable as you check yourself into a psych ward for 72 hours.
dang, sorry to hear this. one thing i know from past experience is when you're with the same person for so long, you start to see yourself in them, and it's almost like looking into a mirror. when you're suddenly not with them anymore, it's almost like you lose a huge part of yourself. that being said, one of the most important things i would recommend doing is things that you used to do when you were younger, but you didn't have in common with your ex. for instance, i shared like all of my music with my ex, and after we broke up every single song reminded me of her. so instead, i started listening to music that she didn't like or i just never got around to showing her, because i liked it way before i met her. most importantly though, as sh**ty as this sounds, the big thing is it's ok to still care about them and it's ok to know that you'll never completely lose that bond with them no matter how hard you try, and instead just focus on living the rest of your life like you intended to
But seriously you need to stop posting and start throwing stuff out and packing, you're wasting valuable time.
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i don't have any experience with this, but my advice echoes mostly what's already been said, you have to get busy. whatever you have an inkling or interest for, just plunge right into it. get creative, do art, sports, writing, whatever. not only do you want to do things that take your mind off it, but what you're really looking for is something you love and that you're passionate about, something you can dedicate yourself towards that goes beyond a relationship.
it will be hard. use the experience to grow as a person, and make sure you don't make the same mistake again (becoming completely dependent on your partner) because as you've realised first hand, the break-up is extremely painful.
I don't want to stay with them but they've been begging me to move back in. I love them and I had a really nice home there, but it doesn't feel right anymore.
