Oh and follow-up question; how do I get a harem of Japanese lovers?
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How do I get my bf to calm down when I accidentally scream out the names of dreamy yaoi boys during sex? I think my boyfriend is starting to suspect I have a harem of Japanese lovers....
No one is crying at god with their life here no need to bring religion into this tbh.
Everything begins with self hence why selfless v selfish are not portrayedin black and white. I don't really think they're the same thing I just don't think they're opposites either.
If a rich person donates away all his wealth to charity not b/c he cares about charity but b/c he wants to be remembered with a good legacy is that selfish or selfless?
As for tibetan monks that involves religion and politics I can play devil's advocate and say what about the family/friends they leave behind.
I guess my point is selfless v selfish actions aren't always clearly motivated by the corresponding intent
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don't cry at god with ur life
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nonsense. what about tibetan monks setting fire to themselves for what they believe in? for **other** people? is that to feel better about themselves? i always thought that a rather amazing gesture, to burn up all selfishness in hell's fire or something
again, ofc everything begins with the self. but the self =/= selfishness.
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the thing is, if you are generous and kind it's to feel better about yourself, so everything bring us back to selfishness
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selfishness and selflessness are actions, and they're opposite actions
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u can look at the world and be a heartless b*stard, tending only to urself, or u can look at the world with kindness and generosity. i know which i'd reward if i was god, or just as who i am myself even. don't pretend they're the same thing
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they're not the same thing. they're basically decisions, and decisions that have huge significance in the world. the people pretending that they're meaningless are just deluding themselves tbh, pretending there can't be a god to judge them or whatever, god left them all alone, with nothing, what else could they be? etc. etc. etc. cry
??? not really disagreeing with you. I def think love exists and oc the self matters. But what do you mean make selflessness/selfishness. The point my friend was making is that selflessness comes from self interest nevertheless so there is so such thing as pure selflessness/selfishness. They're really the same thing.
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let's say love is unity, not egoism
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Love as any human emotion is pure egoism, you love someone means you need them to love you back, who do we need to love us is decided mostly by chemestry(eg. pheromones) and and if we keep loving them or not is decided by how well do they react to us interacting with them(basically if they are friendly enough with us and if their personality match our preferences). The put yourself before the other one MAY exist in a very long relationship(when the attachment reaches levels that in less time can not be reached), so i guess your concept of love it's what i can only see as familiar attachment. This is my concept of love ofc and i'm in no way trying to prove other people wrong.
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self =/= selfishness. u make selfishness, just as others make selflessness. be accountable bros
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i suppose it's along the same lines of that selfish/selflessness argument alright, but i don't agree that there's no such thing as selflessness, nor do i think there's no such thing as love. i just think selfish and loveless people like to pretend as such to feel better about themselves. ofc everything starts with the self tho, we're all each of us a goddamned singularity. doesn't mean it doesn't matter what u do with urself tho
this reminds me of a convo i had where my friend was arguing how there is no such thing as selflessness b/c being selfless for is the result of your own interests for that person or the interests of your values.
kinda agree with roadman too love comes in different forms, sex is a big part of it for most people not all
love is an exaggeratedly grand construct to explain a profound interest or dedication to someone or something. you can literally slap love onto pretty much any interest you have that is strong enough to qualify. in other words, it isn't as special as people make it out to be.
get over it. your relationships have a lot to do with lust, and when they dont, your 'love' depends on friendship.
call it what you will, but time and time again, sex will continue to sustain healthy marriages and good relationships. relationships without sex tend to fall through, unless there's a platonic friendship there based on something besides attraction to a partner. but you can bet that one of you will find an attraction elsewhere, so be wary.
I don't really know how to reply to this. I mean, I think love is a very subjective concept to be completely honest. People have their own ideas about the construct of what love truly is. Some people are very apathetic when it comes to relationships, perhaps they've been hurt or whatever, and any slight glimpses of what love may actually represent to them get swept away under the carpet, and are not really able to make a completely accurate estimation of what it means to them. Other people are too quick to fall 'in love', and think that it's wanting to be with someone all the time, but in all honesty, I see that as lust or obsession. This could obviously be applied to many other personal scenarios.
I have my own idea of what love is, and I think I also have my own idea as to what that quote means to me. I don't really read too far into it, I think the sentiment is quite surface deep, and I read it as though it has no alternative semantics to what is represented by reading it at first glimpse.
As for 'love isn't putting someone else before u', I dunno man. I mean it kind of is, but it is born of something much deeper, and far more multi-faceted in its design.
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love isn't putting someone else before u. love is being in bliss with someone else. the putting them before u then is just a result of ur values shifting. they more or less become the part of u that u love the most.
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i mean i like the quote anyway, but maybe i'm just sex-mad lol
