If you are really emotionally distraught over your situation then consider an alternative solution. Try taking a nap for an hour and see if your mood changes. Try doing your favorite activity or maybe consider seeing a therapist. What you seem to have is far beyond my capabilities of understanding, Arcbell.
Well if it's not that extreme then what you must do is become more comfortable with reading people's complaints. Accept that it is apart of your job and learn to come to peace with it. Maybe, if you stick with it, you might enjoy reading complaints and solving others problems.
That is a personal problem. But remember, you can sit here on your complaining all day about how much "you lack direction". OR you can do something about it and change the course of your life. Complaining gets you nowhere, Arcbell. It's a waste of time. Do something to obtain direction and figure out what you want to do. Only you know what you want, I can't tell you what you want. You already know it.
Being gay is not a problem. The problem is that you have not yet accepted yourself and who you really are. Learn to accept it so that you can live the rest of your life peacefully and be proud to have come out of the closet.
If reading about people complaining about each other is such a problem for you then remember you don't have to do it. If reading complaints is such a problem that you feel suicidal or dread doing it; well no one is forcing you to do so. You always have the option of not doing something you don't like to do. But remember, in life, you will have to do somethings you don't like to do AND sometimes the bigger rewards come when doing the things you don't like. IMO, if you feel suicidal then stop what you're doing. If you feel like what you're doing is causing emotional torment then also stop. Otherwise, toughen up.
You do have a choice. Even if you're locked up in a prison cell, you still have choices as to what you can do. The problem is you have tricked your mind into thinking you have no choices when you have plenty. There are millions of things you could be doing right now. You have plenty of choices, take the time to find out which one is the best for you.
if I had something to do, I wouldn't be bored. the problem is not that I am choosing incorrectly, but rather that I do not have choices to choose between.
A thread cannot help you. Receiving advice over the internet cannot help you. It can only GUIDE you towards the right path. Only YOU can help yourself. It's up to you to follow the advice given to you. If you choose to do nothing and not take action and heed my advice, you will continue to suffer and be bored. The choice is yours, Arcbell.
In life, we become bored when doing something that we are not interested in doing. Therefore, whatever you're doing right now is the root of your boredom. Whatever you're doing right now is causing you to be bored. Figure out what activities interest you and only do them to avoid being bored. Now then, in life, everyone will go through periods of time where they are bored, it can't be avoided. But find out ways to make the boring moments less boring.
Patrick, right now you have an addiction. You are addicted to being a nice & caring person. Being nice is okay but being too caring is bad for you. In my opinion, you have to become a more self-centered person. Become less attached to people and only be caring towards people who you've known for years. Anyone else, consider them a stranger or acquaintance who you don't have to trust or care for. You shouldn't trust or care for people until they've proven themselves to be loyal and a positive contribution in your life.
