my brother was dating a girl in michigan (in like 2002), but then we moved to connecticut and they continued dating for like 4 years (long distance), and then finally broke it off.
they started dating again earlier this year, and are now pretty serious. (she's in nashville, he's in connecticut) but they're looking to go to graduate school together. so props to him. it pays off sometimes if it's just a long distance relationship.
idk how i feel about internet dating, it's kind of wasted effort, but it could amount to something if the two people are old enough/mature enough to make conscious decisions.
I definitely agree with the indescribable feelings part of meeting said person for the first time, but I think that last part says something about LDRs in general. Basically, the fact is that you're long distance and only spend periods of time together. If you're looking at doing long distance for a long period of time without an extended goal, I think you're basically screwed. You have to have a timeline of when you're going to be together IRL.
If you see each other every so often, yes, of course, cherish the moments, but also realize that spending bits of time with someone does not equate to being together forever with them. Plenty of couples move in together and then realize they weren't right for each other, even though they had short amounts of blissful times together.
I have to agree with Betrayal wholeheartedly. He's realistic but geez he comes off as such a jerk.
I was maybe in my long distance thing for a year before calling it off. Then again, I was like 15 and had these fairy tale illusions of what love is.
I'm not one to say hey, you're not gonna work out or YOU'LL NEVER TAKE HER TO PROM LOL! That was a low-blow on Betrayal's behalf, but yeah... I agree with his point at least.
It's bittersweet investing emotions on someone who is 1000000 miles away. The lack of physical interaction and constant need to be online/work around your schedules can be burdensome. When I'm crying, I kinda want my boyfriend to hug me and be there... not just talk me out of it on a computer screen.
It's especially harder when you fall for a guy during your teenage years. In adulthood, you save up for a plane ticket depending the distance and it could work out. As a teenager, lack of money makes it all the more troublesome.
I enjoyed reading your opinions. I was surprised some people agree with me.
I'm currently in an LDR (Long distance relationship) and have been on and off for almost 2 years, I will admit that it's difficult, and sometimes very hard to deal with but I will honestly tell you there is no better feeling that meeting your internet girlfriend/boyfriend for the first time in person, that mix of emotions is indescribable but it doesn't compare to anything I've ever felt before, it's amazing. We live 346 miles way from each other and we've currently met 5 times during the entire duration of the relationship. My opinion, it's a waste of time if you don't cherish every moment with them, if you really love them. This is the best relationship I've had because it's an internet one, I feel a lot closer to her and we cherish every moment we spend together in real life because we don't take it for granted. ;) (That is my non structured opinion of an LDR/Online relationship)
