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Online Dating

deletedover 9 years

Have you ever online dated? What's your view on it?

For me, yeah a long time ago. I think it's a waste of time.

Clair
over 9 years
i'd say if you fail at online dating it's probably not the online dating that's the issue
TheFisherman
over 9 years
Jesus frowns upon that site.
deletedover 9 years
christianmingle.com
b0oty
over 9 years
one day ull get laid and remind urself how big ofa dork u used 2 b
Duppi
over 9 years
I dislike it , but Im currently on some kind of weird relationship with a girl who lives 2 hours away(with train)
TheFisherman
over 9 years
Can't we all just stick to fapping? Life so much simpler that way.
deletedover 9 years
it's for people bereft of real life social interaction.
deletedover 9 years

Sanctify says

Dating online is like having an imaginary best friend as a child

deletedover 9 years
The majority of relationships fail, whether online or irl. Learn from them, or don't. Whatever works for whoever. Timelines are good for increasing the chances of success, but frankly, you don't expect every relationship you're in to last forever the moment you start it. You just take it how it comes and see where things go.
Skoffin
over 9 years
I cannot deny this.
deletedover 9 years
That's because Brits are superior.
Skoffin
over 9 years
Long distance dating, like any other dating, can go quite well or go horribly awry.

I moved to England for a few years due to dating someone overseas; somehow I kept ending up with brits for a while, though I don't really like Australians much anyway so it's harder to find people around here.
Sanctify
over 9 years

Sanctify says

Dating online is like having an imaginary best friend as a child


That was a pretty fast -10 Mr. online dater just because you don't agree with my stance on a particular subject doesn't mean you abuse your mod powers to hide my post.
Sanctify
over 9 years
I'll allow someone to elaborate on that analogy, it just sounded really good in my head.
Sanctify
over 9 years
Dating online is like having an imaginary best friend as a child
Betrayal
over 9 years

Mirasical says

Yh betrayal u say online dating is a waste of time but ur posting on the forums freaking noob


posting on a forum and dating are two different things
deletedover 9 years
HA GAAAAAAAY
deletedover 9 years
Yh betrayal u say online dating is a waste of time but ur posting on the forums freaking noob
deletedover 9 years
I still firmly stand with Betrayal though. But with every case, there are exceptions like my childhood best friend. But majority wise and with my own experience, I still recollect a lengthy stress cycle and physical absence that bothered me far too much to invest into it ever again. But everyone has their own story. I wish you two the best regardless.
deletedover 9 years

appleofmyeye says


Seraphinite says

Apple, really? How far apart are you guys?


We're about 3 hours from each other by car. 200 miles


That's actually not that bad. You guys have a chance of meeting. Not to say you didn't if he lived further, but I just see it being a more promising reality with this information.
AdrenalineMime
over 9 years
you dont have to make an online S/O you can just make online friends
projectmatt
over 9 years
There is so, so much truth in that post Eagles. Thanks for that.
eaglesbaby
over 9 years

Betrayal says


eaglesbaby says

Yes, Betrayal, I have not wasted my time at all. We're house shopping at this very moment. How is that dumb or time wasted?


Well it's good that it worked out for you. But I still wouldn't recommend that people resort to online dating as their way of entering a relationship.


I would highly recommend it.

Being in an LDR that starts out online allows you to create incredible communication as the standard for your relationship. It allows you to get to know each other on an intimate level without the pressure of sex. Good communication is the only option in an LDR/online relationship.

It's my personal belief that a relationship is only as good as the communication. You don't need to physically be with someone to know that you have fallen in love with them, or to know whether or not he is the right person for you.
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Satan says


projectmatt says

I'll be in a college close to her next year. Travel is no problem. I also own proper clothing. However, I'm not really sure why I'm pandering to you.

Seraphinite, I find your opinion interesting but I simply disagree. It can definitely be bittersweet, but an online relationship is pretty much the building up of being able to be there for each other physically. You can get excited about that. And when you're emotionally invested in someone, it's doable.



out of curiosity, did the college thing work out that way or did you guys discuss it prior to your choice?


it's something we discussed ahead of time because it's likely he'll be able to come here, so its not an irrational plan
deletedover 9 years
its not like me and matt are doing it just to do it. we actually plan on meeting and making this into an actual real life relationship. what other point is there if you dont take the relationship seriously? im with matt because i see a future with him. otherwise im just wasting my time, but im not. we actually have a really strong relationship

oh and betrayal. dont worry about our finances or any issues we may encounter during all of that. you dont need to be apart of it. thats ours to take care of, not you. but thank you for reminding us of all those things. because we simply didnt remember we live 200 miles apart and we forgot to think of logistics. wow, im such a klutz. guess we gotta rethink our whole plan, matt. because i totally forgot that money exists and is needed for anything you wanna do in life. silly me.