it was a fun convo. i think we were getting somewhere, then matt calls me anti-trans.
i mean, really. if it wasnt clear that labels arent helping, then you just dont get it at all.
human identities are far more complex than labels can convey effectively. it is why we shouldnt be stuck up on calling people "he" or "she". or trans, gay, straight, or whatever.
how about you just assume everyone is just as complex as a trans person, because guess what? we are, and each of us shows it (or doesnt) in our own way.
the difference is that trans people have mental conflicts from gender perception that lead to mental frailty. helping them understand that we all feel fragile (obviously not to the same extent, hence the inherent conflict trans ppl are feeling) about our masculinity/femininity is one way of bridging the divide.
ah yes, anyone with an opinion contrary to your own shouldnt offer it, because that is arrogant and outright rude! how childish and egotistical for someone to offer their opinion on matters they aren't experts in! but hey, i think islam is a religion of peace, and i am instagram buddies with a muslim friend from college and flipped through the quran once or twice! i know islam and i think it's mighty fine!
just like you shouldnt mention obesity or body odor in public, even if you are trying to help the person out and doing it nicely (and quietly). that's socially unacceptable, like OMIGAWD! it's their right to not take a shower, and you have no right to say anything about it! if they want to act like a girl in public, but you notice they dont look the part, you have NO right to even mention anything about it! NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER!
I dont think hes forcing his opinion on anyone with just plain neutral wall of text unlike you stating your opinion in an aggressive fashion so in reality you are the one who is forcing YOUR opinion
i think it is widely acknowledged in the appropriate fields of science that transgender individuals suffer from varying degrees of mental conflicts. dealing with these conflicts provides answers to the individual. letting them run rampant emotionally harms the person. all i am doing is providing a potential answer, just as hormone therapy provides another, more physically-substantive one.
if you are so weak as to be unable to receive the criticisms of others, then you are incapable of sustaining yourself in the real world.
petri, if you are reading this, i think you need to come to terms with the male side of you. it is fine to embrace femininity, but not to the point where a split personality subverts your masculinity. you clearly have two different mindsets, and as someone who went through disassociation of the psyche, i strongly suggest you proactively merge the two personalities. this is both feasible and rational. you dont have to kill off your masculine side to allow the feminine one to grow. they can coalesce and exist as one. this is something genuine intimacy between a man and a woman shows you.
