Back to General Discussion

told my coworker I met my gf on em

vilden
almost 9 years

I told my coworker I met my girlfriend Krystal on an online browser game called epicmafia and he paused, then asked, "wait, one of those Facebook games right?" I said "no it has its own website." "It's called epicmafia.com"

We both laughed hysterically for a few seconds.

He said "wow man that's so random"

I said "yeah, we were both playing there." "It's a game with a group of people trying to find out who the mafia are among innocent people."

Before this convo he was talking about hitting on girls at the bar and I explained that isn't my thing. It's too awkward. I wonder what he thought about me meeting my gf on a game website.

I explained it isn't weird because she lives close, about 20 minutes away. When he asked if we'd gone out or met yet, that's when I had to lie (since we haven't for some reason and that's pretty embarrassing)

It'd be even more embarrassing if I had told him about the year I spent making everyone believe I was a literal female on this website

But the point of this story is to tell Krystal how she made me lie to my coworker

cub
almost 9 years

sweetnkind says


LadyNemesis says

Vilden, but maybe you meet and find out that you're just not attracted to each other. The voice is weird, they move in a funny way, they laugh at the wrong moments, there are lots of awkward silences bc no one knows what to say


who would meet someone they havent cammed with


people who like surprises
LadyNemesis
almost 9 years
Cub, I don't think 'plain looking' or not is important even. Atractiveness is so much more than looks. It does, however, involve physical attraction at some sort - at least for most people.
Some people are asexual and that's all fine too!
deletedalmost 9 years
i dont think she feels the same way abilities sorry
cub
almost 9 years
honestly all relationships are mistakes i just wouldnt place "real" ones on a higher pedestal
deletedalmost 9 years

LadyNemesis says

Vilden, but maybe you meet and find out that you're just not attracted to each other. The voice is weird, they move in a funny way, they laugh at the wrong moments, there are lots of awkward silences bc no one knows what to say


who would meet someone they havent cammed with
deletedalmost 9 years
I'm Too Shy To Tell Cubs How I Feel About Her Will Someone Pm Her Telling Her About My Crush Pls
LadyNemesis
almost 9 years
Vilden, but maybe you meet and find out that you're just not attracted to each other. The voice is weird, they move in a funny way, they laugh at the wrong moments, there are lots of awkward silences bc no one knows what to say and in bed you find out you have completely different rythms and preferences.
Now, that would suck a little I'd say.

I understand you can become truly interested in someone online, but please, just meet, find out of the attraction is real. If its there - woohooo! If its not there at least you didn't spend months or even years and years in an 'e-relationship' that doesn't work IRL.

But ey, that's just my idea.
cub
almost 9 years

LadyNemesis says

Cub, for me it should definitely be a combination of the two.
If you only have a psychological connection so to say, what's the difference between love and friendship?
I want more than that. I want passion.
I find passion alone not enough either.
I want to be able to talk someone too.

But no, just 'soulmates' or whatever you call it is surely not enough for me. I find the physical aspect too important for that. And when you never even met ... no, that wouldn't be a relationship for me.


good question, although i think there's a difference i cant define it
ive always refused to be in a relationship because i thought it would be valuing one friend over others and i care equally deeply about some of my closer friends

fortunately for myself, im a kissless virgin and have no intention to change that, so being horny doesnt influence who i spend the rest of my life with

id rather an interesting plain-looking person to a dull attractive one.
deletedalmost 9 years

Abilities says

Are You A Gurl Cub I Think I Love You ?


omg
ArieI
almost 9 years

LadyNemesis says

I surely believe you can care deeply for someone you never met IRL btw, I just don't personally consider it to be a real romantic relationship.


that's nice? nobody is saying you have to be go and edate someone.
vilden
almost 9 years
It's prob gotten to the point where all her annoying quirks and mannerisms that you could only see IRL wouldn't change how I felt about her
vilden
almost 9 years
That's it. I'm upclicking every post Abilities has ever made
LadyNemesis
almost 9 years
I surely believe you can care deeply for someone you never met IRL btw, I just don't personally consider it to be a real romantic relationship.
vilden
almost 9 years
I'd say on a scale of 1-10, our relationship is a 10 in authenticity (even though we haven't even met)
LadyNemesis
almost 9 years
Cub, for me it should definitely be a combination of the two.
If you only have a psychological connection so to say, what's the difference between love and friendship?
I want more than that. I want passion.
I find passion alone not enough either.
I want to be able to talk someone too.

But no, just 'soulmates' or whatever you call it is surely not enough for me. I find the physical aspect too important for that. And when you never even met ... no, that wouldn't be a relationship for me.
deletedalmost 9 years
Are You A Gurl Cub I Think I Love You ?
cub
almost 9 years

Retti says

now bare in mind i don't agree with lady's statements but i also dont think e-dating is pure and can be quite awful

but i guess real life dating can be, also


that comment was a topical joke

i think "real" internet relationships (not catfishing, of course) are more genuine than real life because real life you chase after people who really probably have terrible personalities but your privates dont care

but no it isnt pure, nothing is pure
deletedalmost 9 years
I Joined Epic Mafia To Find A Perfect Digital Waifu To Fall In Love With
ArieI
almost 9 years
edating is a special kind of torture where you deeply care for someone and want nothing more than to be near them, but u cant be. but sometimes u cant help but care about someone.
deletedalmost 9 years
that being said ladies look me up on tinder my hobbies are sniffing glue and pokémon trading cards
deletedalmost 9 years
Seeing The Word Sex Makes My Hollow Love Stick Become Stiff
deletedalmost 9 years
now bare in mind i don't agree with lady's statements but i also dont think e-dating is pure and can be quite awful

but i guess real life dating can be, also
cub
almost 9 years

LadyNemesis says

Love is a bunch of chemical reactions in the brain.
Although you can trick yourself into feeling 'in love' with someone you haven't met, it's imo exactly that - tricking yourself. You are in love with an image of a person you don't know its right, and therefore you can make the person as you want him or her to be in your mind. So you're in love with an illusion, a perfect picture of a person.

However I think that in order to really fall in love with someone you should meet the person, bc well - love is just a bunch of chemical reactions in the brain based on lots of hormones and feromones and stuff like that.


yes so is everything else

we're just machines if you want to break it down to that, but we still attribute meaning to the processes. do you only love someone because you think they're attractive, have the right voice, stand at an acceptable height, etc? i don't think love and lust are synonyms. if they were, we could easily throw away the idea of monogamy because it wouldnt make any sense. after all, you still have lust when you're in a relationship and it isn't just with your partner. but you still feel a deeper connection to them than some other piece of *ss, correct?
deletedalmost 9 years

Abilities says

How Can You Know It's Love Until You Lick Her Armpits?


deletedalmost 9 years
Yes Lady you can say that