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E-Dating & Depression

Peta
almost 10 years

I bet people who e-date are more likely to be depressed than people who don't e-date.

I bet there's a pretty strong correlation. I bet it's statistically significant.

What do you guys think? Yes? No?

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Peta says


BiIIStickers says

it's funny, because i've been involved with two people from the internet, and i'm pretty sure the one that's six years younger than me is more mature and emotionally stable than the one that was two years older than me


Pretty sure Erica was/is significantly more mature than you


snicker
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Peta says


BiIIStickers says

it's funny, because i've been involved with two people from the internet, and i'm pretty sure the one that's six years younger than me is more mature and emotionally stable than the one that was two years older than me


Pretty sure Erica was/is significantly more mature than you


Lol
Peta
almost 10 years

BiIIStickers says

it's funny, because i've been involved with two people from the internet, and i'm pretty sure the one that's six years younger than me is more mature and emotionally stable than the one that was two years older than me


Pretty sure Erica was/is significantly more mature than you but the fact that you're OK with dating an 18-year-old as a 24-year-old speaks a whole lot more to your maturity than to hers, in all likelihood.
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What's wrong with half your age plus seven?
MeIody
almost 10 years
I was answering the deep conversation question, not the healthy part. Haven't thought about it too much. I'd say there are always some exceptions though.
Peta
almost 10 years

MeIody says


Peta says


Peta says

Is it possible for a mid-twentysomething and a teenager to have a truly and appropriately deep conversation?


Furthermore, is it healthy for both parties to date, online or in real life?

These are the questions I ask myself.


If the mid twenty something is a bit immature and the teenager mature, perhaps. It all depends on the maturity levels I think. Some teenagers (I'm talking like 18/19) can be rather well matured and hold just as thought-provoking conversations. ~


I don't think immaturity on the part of the twentysomething is an excuse. I don't think it's ever healthy for, say, an 18-year-old to date a 24- or 25-year-old. Maybe not as a theoretical rule, just as a practical one. Unfortunately the only person who doesn't know this is the 18-year-old.
Togepi
almost 10 years

BiIIStickers says

it's funny, because i've been involved with two people from the internet, and i'm pretty sure the one that's six years younger than me is more mature and emotionally stable than the one that was two years older than me


>.>
Togepi
almost 10 years

Apostasy says


Togepi says


Apostasy says

I wouldn't even call most of what happens on this website e-dating, because I think most of the people e-dating never intend to actually meet. And if they do meet, that transcends e-dating.


I think the people that we know about e-dating have actually met or do plan on meeting. It's just a matter of when because a lot of them are still young and don't have the financial freedom to do so.


If they do meet more power to them, I am a supporter of love.

That being said, I severely doubt most of the people ostensibly "e-dating" over ruby mafia are ever going to meet each other.


Most of the teenagers, go ahead and say it. The youngins.
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it's funny, because i've been involved with two people from the internet, and i'm pretty sure the one that's six years younger than me is more mature and emotionally stable than the one that was two years older than me
MeIody
almost 10 years
Many couples on EM have met, a lot less than the amount who declare themselves couples, but yeah. Still. I would say the well-known couples have or will soon.
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Togepi says


Apostasy says

I wouldn't even call most of what happens on this website e-dating, because I think most of the people e-dating never intend to actually meet. And if they do meet, that transcends e-dating.


I think the people that we know about e-dating have actually met or do plan on meeting. It's just a matter of when because a lot of them are still young and don't have the financial freedom to do so.


If they do meet more power to them, I am a supporter of love.

That being said, I severely doubt most of the people ostensibly "e-dating" over ruby mafia are ever going to meet each other.
MeIody
almost 10 years

Peta says


Peta says

Is it possible for a mid-twentysomething and a teenager to have a truly and appropriately deep conversation?


Furthermore, is it healthy for both parties to date, online or in real life?

These are the questions I ask myself.


If the mid twenty something is a bit immature and the teenager mature, perhaps. It all depends on the maturity levels I think. Some teenagers (I'm talking like 18/19) can be rather well matured and hold just as thought-provoking conversations. ~
Togepi
almost 10 years

Apostasy says

I wouldn't even call most of what happens on this website e-dating, because I think most of the people e-dating never intend to actually meet. And if they do meet, that transcends e-dating.


I think the people that we know about e-dating have actually met or do plan on meeting. It's just a matter of when because a lot of them are still young and don't have the financial freedom to do so.
Gira
almost 10 years
manti t'eo thought he was in love with a girl who died, who did not actually exist. dont e-date.
Peta
almost 10 years

Togepi says


Peta says

Is it possible for a mid-twentysomething and a teenager to have a truly and appropriately deep conversation?


A deep conversation about ...things.


What??
Togepi
almost 10 years

Peta says

Is it possible for a mid-twentysomething and a teenager to have a truly and appropriately deep conversation?


A deep conversation about ...things.
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Apostasy says


MeIody says

Real dating doesn't include sex. Real dating isn't centralized around sex--that's something that comes after.


In the secular world, real dating is centralized around sex.


i prefer the term "real world", but whatever gets your point across
Gira
almost 10 years
unless you're a total rube like manti t'eo
Peta
almost 10 years

Peta says

Is it possible for a mid-twentysomething and a teenager to have a truly and appropriately deep conversation?


Furthermore, is it healthy for both parties to date, online or in real life?

These are the questions I ask myself.
Gira
almost 10 years
i don't believe it's possible to connect on such a level with someone you only know online
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I wouldn't even call most of what happens on this website e-dating, because I think most of the people e-dating never intend to actually meet. And if they do meet, that transcends e-dating.
Peta
almost 10 years
Is it possible for a mid-twentysomething and a teenager to have a truly and appropriately deep conversation?
MeIody
almost 10 years

Apostasy says


MeIody says


Apostasy says


MeIody says

Real dating doesn't include sex. Real dating isn't centralized around sex--that's something that comes after.


In the secular world, real dating is centralized around sex.


Maybe in some, not all.


Most. A vast, vast, majority.


True
Togepi
almost 10 years
This is really interesting to me that people just assume that teenagers e-date. Granted, a lot of them do on this site, but I want to find stats on adult e-dating and age group breakdown.
Togepi
almost 10 years

Gira says


Togepi says


Gira says


Togepi says

What if people that e-date can get pretty ladies irl, too? Why does it have to be one or the other?


i would strongly doubt that this is the case


Why?


well generally speaking dumb cutesy communication via instant messaging etc is a pretty poor substitute for actual human interaction, and i imagine most people who "e-date" are generally immature/socially awkward kids. No adult is going to bother with that silliness, they just use okcupid or tinder or something like that

that said, who gives a crap, they'll grow up eventually


That's based on if that it is only "dumb cutesy communication" that you describe but I am going to go ahead and safely assume that if people decide to enter a relationship online that they have had at least one conversation that delves a bit deeper.