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I just want to share this

PainFoinmr
about 7 years

the drama thread

I have been feeling kinda weird lately. I just want to share this with someone. If you can help - awesome, if not, I appreciate positive comments.

A little backstory: I pretty much grew up with video games and no friends. Was the ''smart'' guy (but only smart for my school, no real achievements what so ever). Had the ''too smart for friends'' attitude. Changed school when I was 15, to get more competitive. Of course the first thing I wanted was to get a girlfriend. Gave up after like first 2 months. Kind of settled with kisless virgin life. Started doing track and field to keep myself in shape. In my senior years people started to ask me to participate in school student council, because I actually had the time and will to do things.

fast forward 5 years

Due to some good life decision I became confident, started to keep after my looks, became social, still keeping myself in great shape. Smart, participate in all kinds of events, know how to dance and party.

It's my second year in university, I never seeked cause I am comfortable with my kisless virgin life. I do go to parties but just because I am social and like to dance with girls (but never get any serious). I actively participate in student council, so I had my fair exposure to girls, but I never bothered to make the first move. Like I said - I am very comfortable with my lifestyle.

But then I met her.. There was this freshman girl... we just got together and drank.. I know, I have bad habits, but I study physics. Everyone drinks here. She hosted a party in her dorm room. We drink, we dance and suddenly she uses woman's charm on me. She just presses her body against mine and forces her hand in my hair and pushes my head towards her. She licks my ear. IM SOLD. She wraps her legs against my waist and just pushes her forehead against mine. Nothing serious happened that evening, she just grinded on me a little bit and that's all. I am virgin after all, I had no condoms and had no idea what to do there, never even expected to get laid.

A few days later. I am playing floorball with some of people in my faculty (don't really dare to call them friends). She came to be a spectator. After the game we go for a beer. We drink it, I dance a little with her. Suddenly I realize everyone else is gone. They intentionally left us two alone. I walk her home (we both live in the same dorms), grab her hand. I liked holding hands. Still charmed, can't stop thinking about her.

Fast forward a few days, it's her birthday. I buy condoms. I get flowers and champagne for her. We party with her friends etc, we dance, we kiss on lips. I love it. Can't settle the deal and get to her. Screw it, she was drunk and wanted to actually just rest.I'm okay with that, so I just slept beside her. Suddenly her phone vibrates. She checks it and starts crying. I'm like ''wtf babe, what's wrong''. She just types something back and goes like ''it's nothing'' and puts the phone back in a place I can reach. It vibrates again. I'm like ''wtf, I will turn it off''. She cries and says ''pls don't''. Literally no idea what to do there. Next time it rings. She hurries out of the room, I follow her. She just talks some with some man. I suspect it's her ex. Got a glance at the name, but couldn't find anything in facebook later on. Next morning : She wakes up, tells me she doesnt even remember why she cried (), and says that everything is alright. Okay, I go to work, we meet up in evening. She doesn't look fine. She tell me she is sick. She actually looks sick. I ask how can I help and if I can get her and medicine. She refuses. The following days she tells me she is just getting worse. Refuses any kind of help. Can't even directly answer what's wrong with her. The most I can get out of her ''Not feeling good, I have temperature'' (not sure if you americans use this term, but basically it means her temperature is above normal. I guess you guys would use the term ''fever''? She won't even hug me anymore, cause she is just lying in the bed. Though one time I stepped in her room, she looked quite well and was laughing and watching some funny videos with her friend.

sooo what the is going on. I am charmed. I love her. Does she love me too or was it just alcohol responsible for all those actions? Do I proceed to try and get her love back? We had a plan to go to party tomorrow. She told me she hopes she will be feeling better and will be able to attend it. I'm not sure what to do. pls help

Shwartz99
about 7 years
@mods

you ain't gonna have piece of mind until you bite the bullet and ask the community

tell the community what you're worried about and ask them to clarify what's been going on

if nothing is actually going on and you don't ask the community about it you'll continue to think otherwise and the relationship will become toxic.
Enamored
about 7 years

groundhogday says

you could consider asking her


you ain't gonna have piece of mind until you bite the bullet and ask her

tell her what you're worried about and ask her to clarify what's been going on

if nothing is actually going on and you don't ask her about it you'll continue to think otherwise and the relationship will become toxic.
nicoleyrenaa
about 7 years

charley says

Jess and Nicole <3


babe <3
Sachy
about 7 years
sometimes life isn't about getting laid or being successful; it's also about having a close relationship with people you resonate with. if you are suffocating from a lack of purpose in life, at the very least you can find some purpose just by being nice to each other. but the worst thing you can do is buy into the mentality that society wants you to have, because ultimately it is designed to make you unhappy.
Harkinian
about 7 years
what kind of a copypasta is this
deletedabout 7 years

groundhogday says

you could consider asking her instead of asking epicmafia


When you ask epicmafia, you already know what she thinks about it ;)
xtal
about 7 years
Based on what you've said my advice is to move on. It sounds like you went too fast or she didn't want anything serious. Either way, she's leading you on so she's toxic and not worth it.

Do you truly have feelings for her? Or do you just want a relationship really bad and she's the closest you've gotten? Or do you just want to bang her?

Regardless, the fact that she made a move on you means you're able to attract girls in general which is great. You just need to get over the virgin mindset of thinking you have "no idea what to do" in bed. In an intimate situation your biological programming takes over and you'll have a good time as long as you're not overly self conscious, insecure etc.
Bebop
about 7 years
he explicitly said xvideos.com now charley i might understand why you gave him a no vio your a girl idk if you masturbate much to but that is a website with naked girls naked guys having sexual intercourse
deletedabout 7 years
Jess and Nicole <3
nicoleyrenaa
about 7 years

Becomeclear says

looks like jess and nicole know all about rubbing one out


im not ashamed
Becomeclear
about 7 years
looks like jess and nicole know all about rubbing one out
groundhogday
about 7 years
you could consider asking her instead of asking epicmafia
jess
about 7 years

Becomeclear says

Rub one out and reconsider your feelings afterwards

Shoopie
about 7 years
Go with the flow but don't get your hopes up incase there is another guy that shes not done with.

Goodluck.
JM123
about 7 years

PainFoinmr says

if I went to some other party with intention to get a new girlfriend, I would feel like a manslut.


LOL
Becomeclear
about 7 years
Rub one out and reconsider your feelings afterwards
shady12
about 7 years
I thought this was a copypasta lmao but its real.. look you're attracted - dare I say, sexually attracted - to a girl. It's normal. You still have a lot to learn. I would give you advice, but nothing teaches like experience. You're only on like your second spin of the game of life, so relax. Have fun.
deletedabout 7 years

Recidivism says

She's using you for attention to boost her self-esteem after her recent fling ended. Stay away from her. If you haven't banged yet you probably won't.


This.
poopiebutts
about 7 years
> Be me, beta kissless virgin
> Girl seems interested in me
> Literally wraps her legs around me at a party
> Idk am I reading the signals right
> I am super into her now
> I buy her champagne
> Later we kiss
> Jk she starts crying and gives me mixed signals
> No idea how to feel
> Idk if she did this because she drank too much champagne
> MFW I am screwed over IRL by literal WIFOM

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
PainFoinmr
about 7 years
You guys keep telling me that there are plenty of other girls. Sure, but tbh if I went to some other party with intention to get a new girlfriend, I would feel like a manslut.

Update: she said she doesn't feel too well to attend the party tonight. Though she did go to one of 3 lectures. She also said she hopes I am not mad at her for being in the state she is right now.
JM123
about 7 years

Recidivism says

Silver Lining: At least she didn't lie about how much she loved you until you believed it. That hurts way worse than rejection :)


can confirm this is terrible
JM123
about 7 years
There are many things going on here,

Looks like you are becoming the nice guy that uses logic to make everything's fine. girls rarely bang that guy. they find that kind of guy super boring, and you can never bore a girl, girls want to feel emotions, doesnt really matter what kind of emotions. she will just keep you around and use you for some things.

i get it tho, men's brains are all about logic and women's brains are all about emotions. when a men gets a problem his first instinct is to solve it, while girls get more focused on the emotions of the problem.

you used the word 'love' there, think for a second did you really love her for HER? or did you love the fact of holding hands/kissing/having someone for you? if you picked the latter, then you don't love her, any girl can do those things for you. and there are countless girls out there to meet

focus on yourself, you're the main priority, the main character of your life. try more girls, don't just focus on one. when you get a decent abundance you will know what things you like in a girl and only then you pursue having a loving relationship with your favorite grill


sorry for bad engrish

-jm, certified sexgod
Falconpunch
about 7 years
I didn't even read this but I'm LOLing because I can tell what it says anyway.
deletedabout 7 years
Yeah lad, don't go in there all "gee I hope you're feeling better." F*ck that for a game of marbles, that will lead to a friendship. Go find a new one to lick your ear, throw the lips on the other one if she's there
deletedabout 7 years
She definitely doesn't love you, and you don't love her either. Sounds like she was flirting with the idea of you being her rebound, and for one reason or another she lost interest.

Silver Lining: At least she didn't lie about how much she loved you until you believed it. That hurts way worse than rejection :)