you know if i leave my dog outside for ages while he's barking at my window to come in, when i let him in every single time without fail he'll barrel around the house for a few minutes, kicking off everything, jumping up on everything. dude knows the art of happiness. push back
i mean, there's a reason we all go out at nighttime and swing our body parts around like crazy. it ain't some evolved thing, something we just have in our brains. it's pretty much just to insist upon ourselves, which feels fcking good. otherwise it's a big bunch of nonsense
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you got progressively more sirius-esque as the essay went on
you know there's a crazy amount of people commit suicide on going bankrupt or when losing a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever like that. but it's the same thing. that was them having made ground in the world, then it falls apart, and they won't start from scratch. i mean not to say they're doing it right, but everyone's fcking depressed dudes. we're all gonna die. there's suffering in it for us all. pushing back is the fcking answer. living life for the happiness it affords, and there is happiness there for everyone. just make something of your life. build something with your sad time, and then enjoy it once it's done. and then if it all falls apart, fck it, start again. and again and again and again. and eventually you'll probably find an unshakable base of happiness, if you're unlucky enough to have not had one to begin with. i mean honestly, you're a fcking idiot if you think nobody else can understand. just go make something of yourself.
i suffer from depression. you might not think it, but i do. i'm just good at burying it. hopes and dreams and aspirations and such. and a little bit of laughter too. i get what billstickers is saying here. it's just harder for some people by dint of who they are. neurotransmitters and agonists and bpd and all that bullsht. but i still think it's primarily a mind virus, that is, a thing you have real control over, born of ideas.
and then it is as simple as get out and do something. exercise is absolutely fantastic there. if you can run, run. and so is meditation. people also self-report hugely increased happiness in going out into the countryside, and especially around rivers. honestly, people are just forgetting to live. and it is different from sitting in your room all day alone, that whole environment is of something else, there's an oppression in it. that you haven't made any ground in the world, basically. but go run down the road as fast as you possibly can. go check out the beauty of the countryside. depression means to cave in on yourself. the answer is to push back.
The problem with psychiatrists is that every one I've. had is literally so awful . I don't understand what it is or how these people got degrees but I've always have had a bad psych
i try to make my depressed friends laugh/entertain them as much as possible. i don't know if distraction/escapism is a good idea, but it's what i'm good at, so that's what i do. this also works for when i'm depressed myself. just being there for someone can have a therapeutic effect on yourself, i think
one thing that's helped me is realizing that ultimately i don't actually want the person i'm talking to to "get" it, because if they get it that means they've gone through the same thing and i wouldn't wish this on anyone i actually care about, no matter what a boon it may be for my own well being.
i can't tell you how many times i've heard "i just wish i understood" and how incredibly thankful i am every time that the person doesn't and hopefully will never understand
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lots of depressed people eventually teach themselves to bottle it up because of this happening but the best thing you can do is probably encourage them to get professional help, really.
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yeah, i've had similar experiences. it really sucks when someone coaxes you to open up to them and then gets sick of hearing it when they realize what they're saying isn't going to help. i find it helps if you preface the whole thing with "i don't want u to try to help me i just want you to listen."
Not gonna lie I've had depressed friends that I literally cant help since Im way too cold/awfull when it comes to matters like these, so in the end I rather avoid them so I wont get dragged down with them.
Not sure what I can do about that tho, its not very pleasant to be around someone constantly spreading their negativity when you're trying to have fun.
the problem with that for me is that no one helps me at all in the end, i think they just stop trying cos they get sick of me complaining even though they're my best friend . lol i just want to talk to someone without literal garbage being thrown back into my pile. think im just bitter *_*
if anyone ever wants to talk about this sort of thing feel free to shoot me a PM or ask me for my skype, if absolutely nothing else i'm extremely well qualified to empathize across the entire spectrum of depression and just about the fairest most objective life coach you can find
also pretty much the only thing i'm actually passionate about in my life is helping to steer people away from the mistakes i've made with my own life, so there's that
