Epicmafia

deletedover 8 years

like, if you seem over concerned with making points about why you're great you'll either come off as egotistical which is rarely an appreciated trait, or you'll come off as desperate since you don't seem to care about the person you're with

fair

over 8 years

Try illegal drinking to loosen up

Tatami

over 8 years

I'm pretty bad at scumhunting Retti so I don't think that would work.

mist says

tatami i love you man but if you talk irl how you post online (wallposts) then i think i see the problem.

I speak pretty similarly-I just try to get my thoughts across and be rational. I'm not like an emotionless zombie even online so I don't really see the problem with how I speak?

AdrenalineMime

over 8 years

alright, no more mafia analogies guys, we all saw how connor turned out

deletedover 8 years

"He needs to put a literal WIFOM if he wants a piece of this"

deletedover 8 years

ChilledOut says

Retti says

create a mental image in your head that the person you are talking to is on epicmafia

you are no longer tyler, the kid in the library

you are empire, 57% w/r champion

Lmfao dude what if you make him do this and then his date looks across the table and he has his eyes closed pretending to type on the keyboard

he needs to be confident, like empire would
he needs to scumhunt his date hahahahahfoiejwfiofnednsajkflnas

AdrenalineMime

over 8 years

Tatami says

Normally I'm really good about putting my phone away but once I slipped away for like 15 minutes to play B2NS Dawnstart just because the table was really good. I realized after that I shouldn't do that, though.

the shiet we do for good games

deletedover 8 years

Tatami says

mist says

-don't just talk about yourself. follow up everything you say with asking them about themselves.

I've often been told I'm really selfcentered. I try to balance it out with questions about them but I often don't do that good of a job I think.

My biggest thing is I want them to see me and see my merits so I can't help but talk about it.

Any tips?

it can be difficult, no lie. just don't worry too much about that aspect of it. remember that the person you're dating is supposed to be "selling themselves" as well. but it's not a sales pitch; it's hanging out for a bit to see if you guys click.

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Retti says

create a mental image in your head that the person you are talking to is on epicmafia

you are no longer tyler, the kid in the library

you are empire, 57% w/r champion

Lmfao dude what if you make him do this and then his date looks across the table and he has his eyes closed pretending to type on the keyboard

Tatami

over 8 years

Normally I'm really good about putting my phone away but once I slipped away for like 15 minutes to play B2NS Dawnstart just because the table was really good. I realized after that I shouldn't do that, though.

deletedover 8 years

create a mental image in your head that the person you are talking to is on epicmafia

you are no longer tyler, the kid in the library

you are empire, 57% w/r champion

deletedover 8 years

tatami i love you man but if you talk irl how you post online (wallposts) then i think i see the problem.

make sure your date has plenty of opportunity to talk about themselves. people love talking about themselves.

Sincerely

over 8 years

mist says

dating:
-put your phone away. don't use it during the date.

yeah when I figured out this dating was a breeze it's hIGHLY recommended

Tatami

over 8 years

mist says

-don't just talk about yourself. follow up everything you say with asking them about themselves.

I've often been told I'm really selfcentered. I try to balance it out with questions about them but I often don't do that good of a job I think.

My biggest thing is I want them to see me and see my merits so I can't help but talk about it.

Any tips?

deletedover 8 years

Also make sure you're able to smile at people pretty easily because everyone will think you're not a happy/fun person if you don't

Don't sit there and smile ear to ear for the entire time you meet someone though because that's weird

expose

over 8 years

Be fun.

If you're not having fun and a good time, how do you expect the people around you or your dates to have a good time?

fair

over 8 years

or actually maybe search meetup.com for something that looks fun

deletedover 8 years

dating:
-put your phone away. don't use it during the date.
-eye contact is actually important
-don't just talk about yourself. follow up everything you say with asking them about themselves.
-be cool.

deletedover 8 years

and if they DONT like it then that's their loss, not worth trying to win people over

fair

over 8 years

tinder

deletedover 8 years

If you can make situational humor with the first few minutes of meeting someone then they'll probably like you right away

Don't try to be funny, though, because people can tell forced from natural. If you just have jokes/puns/whatever come to you naturally, you're pretty set on making friends with a lot of people

deletedover 8 years

so just try not to think about what impression you're trying to make, just be yourself because someone is bound to like it

deletedover 8 years

a lot of the people you interact with are under the same pretension that you put yourself in, some are just better at hiding it

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