Hi. My life isn't going as well as I want it to be going. I am no longer motivated to do well in school, play mafia, or do anything really. I just visit the same websites over and over on my computer and my IRL friends are disappearing and won't come back because I come home and plop myself down in a chair and not do my homework, just endlessly cycle through on the internet. People bully me at school and as a result I usually put off eating. I have lose approximately 10 pounds in the last month because I do not eat lunch for most of the day. That may seem good but that puts me at 82 pounds. 82 pounds for a 15 year old boy. Also, when I do eat it is all total **** like oreos and chocolate. Idk what to do maybe I need kind words or whatever but my life kinda sucks right now. Also being ignored by the opposite sex is no help, as I cannot get a girlfriend to save my life.
but like foodlion said, grades are #1. Get good grades and you'll be able to do whatever you want. There is much more to life than high school, trust me. The whole world will open up afterwards.
Talking to your family is tough and emotional because of expectations. I can understand that. It's still good to let them know that you are feeling down and want advice on how to get through a rough time.
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We are your family, bear. No matter what!
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Thank you bronto, this helps. Maybe I should focus more on trombone, or maybe take up something that isn't magic the gathering.
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that's nto good, we're just internet people who don't care as much as your loved ones probably do
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First of all I love dazed and confused with all of my heart, you just won some points in my book Germatron
Secondly, no. I stand by that advice.
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are you giving bear life advice based off of dazed and confused?
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last time I talked to my school therapist, she told me nothing at all. She said just try harder. Gee, thanks.
Idk I've never been comfortable talking to my family about these things. EM has basically become my g family.
Glad to help man, and no, it does not creep me out! I wish I had someone older when I was in high school who could give out advice.
When I was a senior in high school, I focused really heavily on girls. I had a big crush on this chick who I went to prom with. I spent all of this time trying to plan something for her and my friends that would lead to some serious scootilypooping. I put so much effort and time into worrying about "whether she'd like me or not" and the prom that I neglected all 3 of my AP tests and tanked them all. All of our plans for the sexy afterprom flopped and we ended up going to Ihop. My date wasn't even allowed to come with us for that.
Basically my point is - at this stage in your life, don't focus on things you can't control.
Focus on what you can control: Your study and eating habits, how you project yourself to others, becoming really great at a skill (trombone, perhaps? Maybe learn to code. Get really good at something). The rest will follow when you least expect it. Build good habits now and it will carry you far.
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all said and done sonseray is right, just pummel the dude
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when i was 15 i was kind of in the same boat you were. i never had a girlfriend, i weighed about 100 pounds and i was bullied. but i kind of just laughed at bullies. what people think of you in high school doesn't matter, neither does what you wear or who you sat with at lunch or whatever. what matters is your grades. get your grades nice and high so you can open more opportunities when you get out of high school. learn to drive early so you can be independent, start hunting for jobs when you turn 16 so you can have something to focus on, and eventually afford a car. trust me, if theres one big regret ive had in life its not anything to do with my social status in high school, its not caring about my grades enough.
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this probably isn't the best place to talk about this stuff and imo i recommend talking to either a school therapist or to your family members
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If you're worried about getting suspended though then who the hell cares. Totally worth it.
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That's not pathetic, it's no big deal. If that isn't an option it isn't an option. Just stick up for yourself though. Don't let people do that to you.
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Idk my school is really strict about that kind of stuff. Also I can only bench like 50 pounds so I might not be strong enough, as pathetic as that is.
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I'm sure this advice will probably be unpopular with the predominate site demographic but let me tell you something you need to hear
The next time someone tries to bully you, punch them. Hard. Right in the nose, and make sure it bleeds. They won't expect it, and they'll probably go down. I did this to the first person who tried to bully me in middle school, and the first person who tried to bully me in high school. It worked both times, and no one ever tried to bully me again.
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Cakerz you are one of if not the most positive person on this site. every time I see one of your posts anywhere I get a smile on my face. I am truly glad you are here.
As to bront, because I can't quote for some reason:
You are the person I look up to on this site. Whether or not that creeps you out or not, just know that. I will take all of your advice. Thank you.
The responses here actually made me cry! I love you all so much!
looking for happiness in extrinsic stuff (ie girlfriend) isn't the way to look at it. Focus on things that will help you get to a better place. Focus on getting killer grades and getting into a great university. You will meet more like minded people (I made way more friends in college than I did in high school) there and get better networking opportunities for the future when looking for a job. (better school -> better job prospects -> better confidence -> better babes)
The guys who bully you and the girls who ignore you are the types who become, as south park put it, "about as interesting as a wet carrot". They peak early and their lives bottom out after high school. I've been out of high school long enough to see the lives of a lot of my former classmates (the 'cool' kids) deteriorate while I've kept pushing forward.
You are young and have a lot of potential. Focus on school and good grades. The rest will follow. It won't come immediately, but you'll feel an innate satisfaction if you study well and start performing better.
Also try eating healthy. You'll feel a lot better.
You will be good brother. Keep your head up and know that there are many people out there who care about you and your well being. Girls are just girls and they come and go. Just know girls want the guy who's living there life and being happy. The girls will come
