Hi. My life isn't going as well as I want it to be going. I am no longer motivated to do well in school, play mafia, or do anything really. I just visit the same websites over and over on my computer and my IRL friends are disappearing and won't come back because I come home and plop myself down in a chair and not do my homework, just endlessly cycle through on the internet. People bully me at school and as a result I usually put off eating. I have lose approximately 10 pounds in the last month because I do not eat lunch for most of the day. That may seem good but that puts me at 82 pounds. 82 pounds for a 15 year old boy. Also, when I do eat it is all total **** like oreos and chocolate. Idk what to do maybe I need kind words or whatever but my life kinda sucks right now. Also being ignored by the opposite sex is no help, as I cannot get a girlfriend to save my life.
I came to say something positive but everyone's already done better than I would. I hope you stay strong and push through the harder moments in life. Anyway, I'm logging out right now but I PMed you my skype so we should chat next time we're both on.
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I'm feeling better, but does anybody want to chat?
Just pm me.
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Today I ate an English muffin for breakfast with peanut butter on top with a glass of milk. Lunch today was pasta, which was not great but I kept eating.
Thank you all I feel better already.
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Yay that's absolutely awesome. I'm glad =)
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I ate lunch today and it felt weird. :3
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Hope you're having a great day, dude.
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I will keep you up on that offer whenever I fall into depression again, you can count on that.
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Don't mention it dude. It's the least me or anyone else who's posted here can do. You're a solid dude who deserves nothing short of the best imo. Chat me up whenever you want to ~
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Wow, Basil.
I will definitely keep that in mind. I can relate to most of what you said. I was born in America and have lived here my entire life, but I have definitely hit rock bottom many times. 3 times in the last 4 years I have attempted suicide, leaving myself in the hospital with slashed wrists. Life has definitely been going better for me, but sometimes I have relapses back, and have suicidal thoughts. I have begun to train myself to keep those on the backburner, and what you have said I will keep in mind.
It's people like you and everybody who has posted here that keep me going, and for that I am eternally thankful.
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With all that being said, I might also add that inner happiness comes from many surprisingly diverse sources. Sure, listening to music or critiquing film or undergoing any of my hobbies or venting to a friend may cheer me up, but to me, I've always felt happy whenever I contemplated the many obscurely delicate aspects of life. Thinking very deeply about yourself, gazing into something that may seem so simple yet realizing the many depths of it, and even something as simple as feeling proud of yourself for doing something good everyday helped me out a ton. Recap everything that happens everyday in your head and think "I did really good here and should give myself a pat on the back for it" or "I could've definitely done better here and I will try my hardest to improve myself knowing that I am capable of succeeding". At least to me, all these things are a great source of happiness.
I have faith in you bud. You can always talk to me whenever you want to, if there's 1 thing I know about myself is that I enjoy staying up nights to cheer people up. Stay strong :)
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If anyone ever gets under your skin, which is only human, make sure you do not show it to them. They're people with nothing better to do with their lives but bully? Laugh at that fact. Insensitive hypocrites who don't know a solid dude when they see one? Hah, that only says how sad they are. I kept doing well in school and topped my class for 10 years on end despite everything, I eventually made friends whom I trusted enough to vent anything to. One of which is my dad. Trust me when I say it, my dad ended up helping me out loads more than I thought he would. You know your dad/family better than I ever will, but it doesn't hurt to confront someone you trust won't judge or belittle you for it. Give it a shot.
As for having a girlfriend, it'll happen eventually and that I can assure you 100 percent of. It should be the very least of your worries because people are created with people whom they only naturally gravitate towards and eventually come to trust and love; there are no exceptions to that. Eating well helps, I am still very thin but I've eventually ended up growing quite taller than most my age. I am also moving back to America soon, which has me absolutely elated. Trust me dude, life has a way of 180'ing itself. You just have to stay positive, work hard and endure. I'm currently not only content with all my issues, I'm also happier than I've ever been. It's a formula that ceases to fail :).
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Alright BearGuru. I don't usually like sharing my personal problems with people but I know how you're feeling. You and I are quite similar in some regard. If it makes you feel better, I'll gladly share.
I'm around your age, recently turned 16. Born American but of Arab, specifically Syria, origins. I moved from America to Saudi Arabia aged 5 and have always hated it here. I went through a lot of bullying because I was always the small, timid child who did really well at school and had no friends yet never stood for himself and was always known for being excessively kindhearted. I didn't belong, to Saudis I was always "the American" and to Americans I was always "the Arab". The only place I ever did belong in was my hometown, Damascus, which is now in the ruins of a civil war. I've lost loved ones, left my home and the place I've always loved and belonged to, and life sucked at school. I contemplated suicide multiple times throughout my life, neglected my body to the state of me being incredibly thin and unfit that I was more skeleton than man. I've always despised society and all the people around me but kept strictly to myself about it. Whenever my parents asked, I'd shrug it off as nothing. Opposite sex? Those don't even exist here. We're all kept seperate all the time. One day, I decided to vent this to a friend on the internet who just ended up being a catfish and a notorious liar. It sucked, really. Yet, I always did well at school. I held firmly to my beliefs of optimism and anti-cynicism and never got in any fights with everyone. People got around to appreciating me eventually and I never let anyone bother me anyhow.
lol my post is too long
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Hi BearGuru would like to give my input since I think you're one of the most genuine people I've met and I truly admire and respect you. I've been there before where I've been in the state of not wanting to do anything, and have felt like I've been losing everything. I'd recommend taking a walk or something, and evaluating everything going on. Talking with people definitely helps as well as I can see you've done so far. The people that bully you? They jealous haters that take their anger out on you because they ain't you. As for the girls part, don't worry about that at all. You're 15 years old, right now your goal in life is to finish your high school degree. If you truly want it, the best thing to do is wait. A relationship isn't going to fall into your lap. Try talking to girls, and seeing where things go. I've been in the same state as you before where I couldn't get a girlfriend and got jealous because everyone else had one. It's typical to be honest. Make sure you keep your appetite up bro. Starving yourself is never a good thing. I really wish you success in life buddy, and if you need someone to chat, well you have a friend in me!
Oh yeah about friends i mean the best way to do it is to do extracurriculars, especially sports, cus its really easy to make friends with people when you're forced together for such a long time. clubs can be good too sometimes. in classes you should take initiative - just strike up a conversation with the person next to u. if you're bad at talking to people, ask questions about the other person, bc most people love talking about themselves. and don't be afraid to ask people if you can sit with them! most ppl are nice. also, if you have a friend in the class before lunch, you can just walk with them and be like "where r u sitting wanna have lunch together" etc etc
Dont punch people. Girlfriends are stupid, don't look for ur happiness in them. also most high school girls are really fickle and are in love with the chase, so u have to be confident/love urself before they will be interested. u should probably eat more. i hope u feel better bud. sometimes high school sucks and it doesn't last forever, but u should still make the most of it while you're here
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Alright I'm going to sleep now. All of you, with all my heart, thank you. YOu are the greatest people on earth.
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Great words, projectmatt and wake =) and all of you, really! Its great knowing everyone is so helpful when someone is feeling down.
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You ARE a wonderful person no matter what you say. Anything you say is better than anything a motivational speaker would say. I love you too.
If I start to trust you, I'll give you my number to text me.
One thing i've learned here is that you're not alone.
I love you and I want nothing but the best for you.
Please try to eat lunch and regular foods besides oreos and junk. Your body is a temple and you deserve to treat it right because you're worth it. Im no motivational speaker and I know that I'm not a wonderful person but I want to see my friends do well and prosper in life. Please, tomorrow night, we shall message and whatnot (:
Keep your chin up babybear! You'll make it out alive,
As for those bullies I will make a video and put it on YouTube calling them out...they will be fat and ugly one day trust me
Don't worry too much about getting a girlfriend. I get that attention from the opposite sex is awesome when you're 15, but it'll come into place naturally. As far as weight goes, don't stuff yourself either as you might get into a process where you are so full that you don't eat for ages. Just have three courses a day, and you'll be fine. Take it from someone that knows others who have starved themselves unintentionally or otherwise - it's really, really dangerous and has potentially huge long-term effects.
I had a similar problem with the friend thing, and honestly, if you want to keep in touch with your friends or make new one, then you're gonna have to put some work into it. Join some clubs after school if they have them. Ask to sit at a new table. I don't really know how socialization works in public school as I've been homeschooled for my life, but you can keep them and gain new ones if you try.
I get that it's a difficult to find the motivation to do things. I really do. But I think that you'll find that it's worth it. And remember: if for some reason, you become totally friendless in high school, high school is not the end of your life. You have university, and all kinds of new opportunities are gonna rise for you.
I know from experience that you can feel absolutely awful and like a failure when you're young and going through that stuff, but you're gonna do fine dude. Just keep calm about everything.
