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deletedalmost 11 years

So guys, this topic is going to be kind of personal. I'm at sort of a crossroads in my life and I need third-party opinions from people who are not my friends and family....

Basically, the situation is this: live in Germany, have been living here for 5 years, but am American, and was born in America. It's too long a story to explain here, so pm if you want to know more. I'm a senior in high school, going to an international school, expecting to graduate soon. I'm in the process of applying to colleges, and am almost done, but I have a simple but really difficult question to answer....where should I go to college?

The reason why this is difficult is that my family will not be returning stateside should I choose to attend uni in the U.S. They will stay in Europe, I don't know how long but it will be a few years before they return, and they are very concerned about me being an ocean away as a freshman in college. This isn't like going from east to west coast - this is two different continents we're talking about, each with their own cultures, geo-political structures and societies. They want me to attend college in Europe, but as much as I love Europe, I'm ready to go home. Money won't be an issue, so I can go anywhere I want (in the U.S.) but I'll still be alone wherever I go. So while I'm excited to return, this big gap is starting to make me doubt and question my desire to return to America. I need imput from others already in college. I'll be so far from family, but I'll have the chance to start a new life back home fresh.

So....do I go home to the U.S., or stay with my family in Europe?

EDIT: I'd also like to clarify that I'm not some rich billionaire. My family and I are part of the middle class, so while I will be able afford to attend a reasonably price college (or the average) choosing where I go will still be a big decision because I won't be always able to afford to go home (for thanksgiving or christmas etc)

Should I stay in Europe, or go back to the U.S.?
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Edark
almost 11 years
I was under the impression that uni was free in Germany for german residents
ling
almost 11 years

Empire says


DrJackShephard says

Nobody is ever miserable their first semester of college.


Tell that to my friends back home who drive back for High School Pt. 2 every weekend.


Barely anyone dorms here for college in australia and everyone still loves first semester college
deletedalmost 11 years

Peta says

Your friends are failures.


Does that make me not a failure thus far? Thanks Peta.
DrJackShephard
almost 11 years
My first semester of college was literally like living in a straight to DVD Ryan Reynolds movie.
Peta
almost 11 years

Empire says


DrJackShephard says

Nobody is ever miserable their first semester of college.


Tell that to my friends back home who drive back for High School Pt. 2 every weekend.


Your friends are failures.
DrJackShephard
almost 11 years

ling says

After 3 pages of discussion the general consensus is 'do what makes you happy'


Do what makes you happy if you can afford to. If not, do what makes your parents happy because they're funding it.*
Peta
almost 11 years
Just finished freshman orientation and HOLY moly do I love this place
deletedalmost 11 years

DrJackShephard says

Nobody is ever miserable their first semester of college.


Tell that to my friends back home who drive back for High School Pt. 2 every weekend.
Peta
almost 11 years

DrJackShephard says

Nobody is ever miserable their first semester of college.

ling
almost 11 years
After 3 pages of discussion the general consensus is 'do what makes you happy'
DrJackShephard
almost 11 years
Nobody is ever miserable their first semester of college.
ColdLayer
almost 11 years
Well I guess Smor's just gotta ask himself if his parents are idiots like Empire's or not.
Peta
almost 11 years

Empire says


ColdLayer says

Smor just shut up and listen to whatever your parents say. Sorted.



DrJackShephard says

This.

They're paying for it.


If I had listened to my father I would have gone somewhere I would have been miserable. Fortunately for me I did not.

In that sense though hopefully Smor's parents are wise decision makers and have valuable insight as compared to mine.


Don't worry, you still have three and a half out of four years to become miserable.
deletedalmost 11 years

ColdLayer says

Smor just shut up and listen to whatever your parents say. Sorted.



DrJackShephard says

This.

They're paying for it.


If I had listened to my father I would have gone somewhere I would have been miserable. Fortunately for me I did not.

In that sense though hopefully Smor's parents are wise decision makers and have valuable insight as compared to mine.
deletedalmost 11 years

DrJackShephard says

Why not just use your parents money to buy more money? College won't guarantee you success anyway.


Go away troll >.>
deletedalmost 11 years
Edark, you have a very valid point which I will consider :/

What the funny thing is though is that it would be more affordable to attend college in the U.S.A. as I'm an american citizen and would not count as an international student like in Europe, but it would be more "safer" in a sense, to attend it in Europe because I have my only family here.
DrJackShephard
almost 11 years
Why not just use your parents money to buy more money? College won't guarantee you success anyway.
Edark
almost 11 years
I was planning to study in the UK, but then I realized its better to pay nothing and stick to Sweden and maybe study abroad for a year

maybe thats something which would suit you better smor, insted of studying the whole course in USA you can just take 1 year or something along those lines
deletedalmost 11 years

DrJackShephard says

Epicmafia.com as a third party support system?

Yikes.


yikes yourself
DrJackShephard
almost 11 years

ColdLayer says

Smor just shut up and listen to whatever your parents say. Sorted.


This.

They're paying for it.
deletedalmost 11 years

DrJackShephard says

Epicmafia.com as a third party support system?

Yikes.


You don't have to reply. I'm not asking for your approval or validation about the nature of this post. So far you've been the closest thing to a troll/unwelcomed voice.
Peta
almost 11 years

Empire says


Peta says


Empire says


Peta says

If Smorlicious's family or some other institution is paying his tuition for him, which appears to be the case, then this isn't relevant.


You literally quoted the part where I said "Although you said money is not an issue", excepting Smor. It was pointing out what I deemed bad advice in Flux's statements that DIDN'T apply to Smor.



Empire says

Don't do this.





And the education part, does, indeed, tackle something related to Smor.


OK then I don't know why you included the money part
ColdLayer
almost 11 years
Smor just shut up and listen to whatever your parents say. Sorted.
Peta
almost 11 years
You should probably take into account the fact that if you go to a liberal arts college in the US and your social skills are no worse than average then you have like a 50/50 chance of being a rock star
DrJackShephard
almost 11 years
Epicmafia.com as a third party support system?

Yikes.