how do i get into college without a ged or highschool diploma
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i think the best scenario is to find yourself alone with your friend in a situation and then just be genuine and ask "hey uh are you okay" and like they'll probably say "yeah why" and then that's when you say "idk you've just been kind of distant lately and i miss you, like idk did i do anything wrong?"
this will make your friend immediately try and reassure you that you're not at fault (if you aren't at fault), and then they might tell you the real reason. if they don't tell you the real reason though then you know they're upset but you're not at fault, so idk just do something nice for them like maybe watch a movie together or feed some ducks at the park
if they kinda dodge that last part of "idk did i do anything wrong", then like maybe you did something, so you then have to say "if i did anything then i really didn't mean to i'm really sorry". Then either they'll explain what you did or be like whatever, if they're more of the latter then just be like "i really don't know what i did but im really sorry" and then just walk away sadly after you've said that and let them sit on that, they'll prob message you or something with the thing they think you did and you can clear it up if it's a misunderstanding
deletedabout 6 years
@lozershus omg so relatable but you seem very smart and aware of everything so hey you have that going for you
this breaks my heart yellowpear, there are 3 possible scenarios 1. ur friend might be going through something and might feel like withdrawing themselves from everything
2. ur friend likes you romantically and is avoiding you because they are embarrassed (depends on their personality type) or likes someone else romantically and is spending their time and resources and energy into that person and is busy infatuating themselves over them (if their personality type is more active)
3. ur friend doesn't like you anymore for some reason, maybe you did something and unintentionally hurt their feelings or they took something the wrong way
obviously this is making you upset, but the only real way to find out the reason is to ask them (i know that sucks), but if you don't ask them you're just gonna continue feeling bad and unsure about everything
secondly yes depression ruins all things good, i mean there's only so long that i can watch tv and feel temporarily good. i do think my time of cultivating talent is over, i just need to hone in on a passion, but depression is a killer of passion and motivation comes in small waves perhaps once a month and lasts as long as the blink of an eye :/
blessings for the advice though dear guru, on my next trip here in need of more wisdom i shall bring a small token of my appreciation.
deletedabout 6 years
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if you think you can't do that, you actually can. if you don't really want to do that then you're probably depressed which has a very bad side effect of making people want to do nothing ever. i think the best way to overcome that is just to push through that feeling and do it, because once you do it, you kinda realize it's not that hard and that you're definitely capable of cool things
if you still don't wanna do that then you're really depressed and i feel u just take it easy and watch tv shows and do things that make you feel good for a while
deletedabout 6 years
i think the people that say "just keep looking, you just haven't found your talent/what you're good at yet!" are REALLY wrong.
if you think about it, that would mean your talent could be something you despise, like imagine your talent being math when you actually hate math... if i was good at math honestly i would probably still hate it because it's just boring and dry and i hate numbers
maybe if i was good and talented at math as a child, i wouldn't hate it but that brings us to an important revelation... our critical age of cultivating a talent/passion is over... children introduced to art at an early age and enjoy it, become good at, then that blossoms into talent and passion
just because that critical age period is over though doesn't mean that it's now impossible, it's just a little harder. i'd say lay out the things you enjoy, think about them, what would make you happy? what would make you happy if you did it for the rest of your life? keep doing it, be enthusiastic and it will become a talent and passion. it would suck being talented at something you hate, and being stuck with that
if your answer is "i don't really enjoy anything actually" then you're probably depressed or not thinking hard enough if you enjoy kpop and aesthetic, start a cool blog or be a contributor to a community, make cool videos, all those things look good in a resume because they show that you have passion and that you're able to pursue things you enjoy. and enjoyment leads to more enjoyment.
how do i find my talent and/or passion dear advice guru
deletedabout 6 years
hmm idk i think that people are all different because 1. they have diff genetics, but i think 2. life experiences plays a way more important role like i think if you had my genetics and went through life exactly the same as me you could give really good advice too
that plays a part but also just common sense and i guess trying to see what the best possible outcome could be for the person asking for the advice (if they take the advice) and it's also always good to relate to people and work with that
and finally i think the most important thing is just to at least try, like at least try to give good advice that's well thought out
don't think of them as boys? theyre just people like girls are
do you even want to talk to boys though like most are really simple and they never say anything fun except for maybe complimenting you if you're a girl but like i guess girls never really say anything fun either i guess it depends on the person
if the boy you like enjoys video games i guess an easy way to talk and bond is to play video games with him
deletedabout 6 years
because if they don't want to talk to you that's their choice, being pushy will just make both yourself and the other person feel bad
im definitely sure the other ~person~ forgives you but they just don't wanna be friends and that's fine, you deserve friends that reciprocate that friendship
don't think of them as girls? theyre just people like boys are
i think the best advice is to just not think about it, say what you want to say as long as it's not hurtful, if the girl distances herself away from you then meh just keep doing that until you find people that don't
if it's a specific girl you have in mind that you really like just get to know her and tell you how you feel when you're doing something together, if she says no then meh there are like so many other people in the world
How is "you shouldn't worry about it" ever supposed to be good advice? Maybe I am worried since I care about ~their~ opinion because I like ~them~. I mean you're right time heals almost all wounds but some people (like me) just suffer from the emotional equivalent of haemophilia. And I won't forget about ~them~. This way I'll just keep bleeding and there's nothing I can do about it.
i think you shouldn't worry about it, if that person doesn't want to forgive you that's just their choice, you should move on and forget about them, don't waste your time and feelings. some people are just like that
