“ You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch. Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it’s really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy.
You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who can’t write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but that’s really not you. It’s not ingrained. It’s not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like.
If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, it’s the only way.
in the NEW YEAR i'll be more active i hope!! my work hours increased for the holidays/i've been spending a lot more time with my family and friends/i'm in an ORG and when i'm on a computer that is literally all i'm doing and then i log off. i've missed my family and friends so much and since moving in with my sister i've been having a blast (queue my annoying snap stories/personal snaps that a lot of you get) and i think this is the happiest i've been in a while. i'm sososo happy to be busy and my heart is so full but also miss being involved in the community :c
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aww I just noticed that I got tagged as a fav, coolio!
i'm in the discord rn i'm cleaning up the forums if u wanna hang but i'm not talking much bc CONCENTRATION also i have to go to a halloween bday party tonight and ppl are coming over to my ex-apartment to take all of my furniture so i won't be home until later but YES i woudl love to hang
Aquarius: Grounded, reliable, and realistic. Aquarius is typically shown as eccentric and bizarre, but don’t be fooled. They have a real knowledge of pain in life. They know how it feels to struggle with your own self-worth. They know what it feels like to feel overwhelmed with other’s expectations. By themselves, they have a strong sense of discipline and responsibility. They can have very conservative beliefs, which you wouldn’t expect from how they act. They try to obscure the heavier part of their personality, but by doing so, they worsen their feelings of inadequacy and struggle with limitations.
Pisces: Aware, independent, and innovative. Most people view Pisces as dreamy and lost in their own worlds, yet Pisces has a keen intuition that enables them to read between the lines, where others cannot. Though Pisces can be like a sponge, absorbing the information and emotions from others, they’re more detached and less influenced than they seem. They have an independence and a rebelliousness to them that others don’t expect. This sign is more objective, more logical than their starry-eyed appearance may suggest. Through concealing this more reasonable part of themselves, they struggle to appear as they genuinely are, isolating themselves from friends and companions.
Scorpio: Romantic, gentle, and idealistic. Surprisingly enough, Scorpio has a kindness and idealism that is very hidden underneath a more heavy and secretive exterior. Scorpio has a strong belief in justice and is highly-principled, with a strong urge to protect the helpless and the innocent. In a more private sphere, Scorpio is compassionate and sweet to those who’ve shown understanding and care. By internalizing this aspect of themselves, they end up withdrawing and feeling isolated among others. They may secretly idealize their partners as a means of compensation, leaving them vulnerable to emotional disappointment.
Sagittarius: Profound, secretive and investigative. Happy-go-lucky Sagittarius has a great deal of depth than what their appearance may suggest. They have an interest in the taboo, the occult, the bizarre, though they don’t tend to project this to others easily. Sagittarius can be very private and reserved, despite acting otherwise, as it’s difficult for them to reveal emotional intensity. Instead, they prefer to push their feelings away or laugh them off. Yet, by hiding such a private part of themselves, they struggle with emotional intimacy.
Capricorn: Philosophical, wise, and witty. Capricorn is a naturally cautious sign. They tend to keep their ideals, personal beliefs, and thoughts to themselves. A natural behind-the-scenes planner, it’s a struggle for Capricorn to open up to others and to be spontaneous. However, when they do, they’re humorous and enthusiastic, with warmth and charisma. They use their ideals to fuel their inspiration and hopes for the future. By keeping their thoughts only to themselves, they put too much pressure on themselves, worrying about their future and whether they’re doing things right.
Leo: Sensitive, generous, and loyal. Leo may first come across as open and confident, but they have a great deal of emotional depth which they find difficult to show. They form deep emotional attachments, resulting in integrity and loyalty to those they care for. They’re generous and devoted, but have difficulty expressing their own emotions, despite their sensitivity. As a result, they may become guarded and hypersensitive with their emotions, and therefore unable to share their empathy with others.
Virgo: Willful, self-sufficient, and powerful. A stereotypical Virgo comes across as quiet and analytical, but in reality, Virgo has a great deal of willpower. Behind the scenes, there’s a strong leadership potential, a potency in personality that is influential and admirable. There’s a great deal of pride in this position, but there’s also inhibition. Despite feeling proud of their achievements, they feel uncomfortable in the spotlight- resulting in feeling torn between basking in the limelight and shying away from it.
Libra: Critical, devoted, and thoughtful. Very often, a Libra seems at best friendly and charming, or at worst, superficial and unreliable. Libra actually is very thoughtful and eloquent, spending a great deal of time on formulating their thoughts and opinions, as spontaneous as they might act. There’s a tendency to notice things here that others wouldn’t- you have a sharp and keen eye for details that are usually missed. However, they tend to keep their thoughts and their worries to themselves, increasing anxiety and feeling misunderstood.
