Hello everyone, tigermom here to discuss polygamy. By definition, polygamy (from Late Greek πολυγαμία, polygamía, "state of marriage to many spouses") involves marriage with more than one spouse.
Terminology useful for the discussion:
Polygamy - the act of having multiple spouses
Polyamory - not to be mixed up with polygamy. The main difference between polygamy and polyamory is that polygamy means 1 person has multiple spouses while polyamory signifies a relationship where 3+ partners are all involved with each other.
Polygyny - a man has multiple wives.
Polyandry - a woman has multiple husbands.
What is your opinion on this? Do you think polygamy should be legalized in Western society? Should polygamy be banned in most of Africa and the Middle East? Does polygamy undermine Western virtues?
I view this as more of a law issue than a human rights one. While personally I would never immerse myself in a polyamorous/polygamous relationship, I do not look any differently at those who do. However I tend to disagree with polygamy marriage in westernized countries because of how legally binding marriage is. There are taxes, property rights, custody of children, healthcare, etc., just sooo many things that come with a marriage, and getting a divorce or annulment would probably be 10 times more stressful than not. Never mind the implications if there were to be multiple spouses carrying a child, and what that could mean for maternity leave and those who are the breadwinners within the family. In order for polygamy to be legalized there would have to be a rewrite of all sorts of laws involving these things.
Take anything I say with a grain of salt though because I don't know much, if anything, about the ties that come with marriage but I do fill out my fafsa report every year and I only have 2 parents and that's stressful enough just sayin'.
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drakhan is bottom left r*tard on the political scale
In my view people should be free to do anything that does not impact the freedom of others.
So legalise it, legalise drugs, legalise guns, legalise HFCS, only when peoples use of those things stops someone else from doing the same should there be laws.
ah yes, but my mothers name was the only one on the deed because we had bought it before she got married (i think. i haven't spoken to her at length about the situation)
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here's my final opinion on the situation :
love no one . literally have no spouses. hate everyone. gn
But would it be different without marriage? Owning a house still involves the state, and if both names were on the deed there would still have to be some sort of severance process.
making marriage state-sanctioned though leads to situations like one my mother was in, where she wasn't able to get her abusive husband out of the house for over a year because they were still legally married and he was stalling the divorce process for as long as possible. such a situation wouldn't have happened if their partnership hadn't been state-sanctioned
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bring back a theocratic orthodox christian monarchy and only allow marriages between one man and one woman divorce is only legal thru abuse or infidelity and must be granted by the head Patriarch
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what a beautiful world that would be.
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its still used as an excuse for people in abusive relationships to stay together, so i can see why chihi would be against it
I don't think government benefits is why people get married too early.
The main thing which makes divorce tricky is deciding ownership and custody which would still be a problem even if there was no state sanctioned marriage.
Governments use tax write-offs as incentives for lots of things, I don't really see a problem with it.
the fact that there are so many benefits encourages couples to get married earlier in life and with people they've been with for less time. this very likely leads to higher divorce rates
at the same time, all the benefits encourage married couples to stay together, even when they are unhappy in their current marriage
also, the fact that state-sanctioned marriages are the norm makes them harder to get out of. this is a problem for people who are suffering domestic abuse.
also, people just straight up shouldnt be given benefits for being married. that creates the idea that married people are more deserving than unmarried people, which is dumb imo
May I ask why? As of now there are myriad benefits to marriage (such as exemption from estate taxes or medical benefits) so why would you oppose it?
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there's my daily somewhat vague somewhat questionable response ok bye
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unlike having multiple relationships having multiple spouses can be more dangerous as marriage is more binding and harder to get out of. It's completely fine with all parties consenting and being happy as a result of it but an issue that comes up sooner then monogamous relationships is an issue of one person wanting more control/power over the relationship, someone'll always be getting the short end of the stick
Should it be illegal? Probably not. I'm sure if it wasn't quite a few people will be happy, but I'm also sure that it will spawn quite a few negative and more objectified relationships, which is a serious concern people should have when headed into these relationships.
