Do you talk to the same people you talked to last year? The year before that? Perhaps even the year before that? Do you go from group to group on a regular basis and build strong friendships with people over a short amount of time, and then on to the next one?
What is it exactly that you do?
Discuss here, in this thread.
Everyone is welcome.
Except for Lana.
So, what's it going to be everyone?
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deletedover 8 years
I don't think I have any secrets that I've kept completely to myself, but I've chosen very wisely who to divulge that type of stuff to.
This might have something to do with the direction gaming has gone actually. Come to think of it, when I made most of my friends from online games, communities were more accessible, and far more tight-knit. People were way more attainable on a social level, and there were always channels by which you could facilitate getting to know other people.
These days, you tend to have your own personal area in games, and it's quite hard to find people to converse with about things unrelated to the game at hand.
Obviously. I have secrets that not a soul in the world knows apart from myself.
Like I said before, I run a clan on an online strategy gaming site but it's rare we ever have social conversation. Some of them know each other in real life or discovered they live close and have met up, so there are those connections. Of course there have been times when we've had good discussions about our lives and such, especially since we have each other on Facebook. There is a lot of respect in our group too. I suppose the fact we're all lads doesn't help.
I also used to play competitive Call of Duty which is a very hostile environment; ideal for me. I still speak to 2 or 3 people from that.
Carly is a great person, and I've actually talked to her about a lot of personal things. From what I remember of you in Comp lobby, you were a troll for the most part, so if you haven't had any recent out-of-site contact, then that might be why.
Also, the people in comp lobby were a lot more mafia-minded than those of main lobby. Main is more about cliques and politics than comp ever was.
Lil Wayne lyrics: I got a small circle, I'm not with different crews
Anyways, I have different friends than last year but I consider all the ones I have now as very strong friends whereas last year I had a ton of aquantices I was good with. I feel now I have true friends I can confide in. In short, everything is different, but now I have quality versus before having quantity.
Outside of epicmafia, I haven't picked up any long term friends from games like League, Hearthstone etc, it's more like people I was already friends with also happened to play those games
Agreed. This is why I very rarely become good friends with people that can't handle banter etc. If they take everything seriously or they're incredibly sensitive, we simply won't get on.
I've been at parties before and a girl would start talking to me on the dancefloor or wherever. She'd say something, I'd say something and then her next line would be "We're not going to get on are we?" They receive a cheery "nah" and I carry on with whatever I'm doing.
I'm not saying it's applicable on a universal level. It's just something that I've come to notice with certain people, and it is a very general trend of my own personal experiences.
Actually, you're right. I haven't attempted to talk to people outside the site in 2 years with the exception of sinead. I probably wouldn't know. I would consider myself friends with vigoroth, carly, skulzkkz and that's about it.
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Yes this is true, but there are still plenty of things people are reserved to tell even online.
Obviously this works better in real life (especially with my friends who are guys who aren't used to talking about their feelings.) it's led to some great conversations
It's hard for some people to take jokes from people they just meet compared to those they've know for a while, or they think bad of you because the first thing you notice about them is something to make fun of
I can definitely agree that being a knobend to lots of people is fun.
I also think it's like a heuristic benefit really.
People who are easily offended are generally quite emotionally unstable, and those sorts of people are very hard to keep healthy friendships with, because you have to be courteous and understanding to the point that you might filter what you say. In the same respect, you aren't able to fully trust that they will disregard you the moment they disagree with one of your opinions or views.
I find that online people often want to share though, perhaps because it's easier when you don't have that connection, or simply because things are easier to say via text/type compared to talking properly.
People are often also scared of consequences or judgement for speaking about personal issues in a real life environment.
i've been in the same skype group for probably upwards of 2 years now, which is only a lot because my entire epicmafia existence is less than 3 years old. so through that i've gotten solid long and short term friends. other areas of the site i feel like i've had many more short term friends, and we lose contact for whatever reason; usually people going on hiatuses or some weird falling out
Yeah, we're basically on the same wavelength, but that's to be expected when we tend to display similar personality traits. Both online and real life, my good friends will say I'm the biggest cünt to people I don't know or don't like, but I'm actually a great person to have as a close friend.
