So my problem is solved (Solace your solution didn't work on it's own, but it lead to the fix, thank you for helping me and not just ignoring this)

Years ago (2010) I created a family called Beyond Control, myself and a few of my friends were in it. Slowly we all stopped playing, and left the family. Eventually nobody was left in it, but because I left it w/o deleting it, it never got deleted. https://epicmafia.com/family/1788 was the link, but it's not active anymore. When Solace created a family and then transferred leadership over to me, I tried to invite someone to join (Alphabeat) He accepted the invitation and yet because I now had two families (Beyond Control, and The Pirates) tied to my account, it actually had Alphabeat join Beyond Control, which hadn't been active in over 5 years. When he joined however, it gave me back control of the family's page, and I was finally able to delete Beyond Control from my archive, or the system or whatever. That seemed to fix any issues I'd been having, and now I'm free and clear with my new family. I just want to thank Solace again, and hopefully if this gets buried somewhere, and someone is having the same problem I just had, they can find this and it will explain what is going on.

If you left the family then it shouldn't affect your ability to make a family.

Unfortunately, I cannot look up the family, but what I can do is:

make a family with a name of your choice, invite you, then pass you leadership.

Just pm me the family name you want and I'll tell you if it's available!

I think I know what happened, I created a family (Spacebabies) like 5 years ago, Alphabeat and Spiderboom myself another friend were in it, anywho I left that family w/o deleting it, and I think it's still tied to my account. Is there some mod that can look it up? (Solace I tried your thing, didn't work) Thanks in advance!

Hi, I invited you to a family on my alt. Maybe you can try joining my family and leaving to clear your account's family field.