this situation is pathetic and it's also sad, no lie there
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if you said it that way. "please act like a mature responsible adult", instead of "this is pathetic, grow up get a life", it'd be fine. that's all im saying
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lol yeah telling someone to act like a mature responsible adult is an extremely toxic thing to say.
everyone disregards him because he is "annoying" but he's a good dude
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it's like you didn't read anything i said my dude. i said unless you're trying to help them, don't do anything. i mean if you believe saying grow up and get a life = helping him out when you already know how you both feel about each other, thennnnn idk
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this has changed my view of justrec at least, i now think he is a somewhat decent person even though his methods of helping people are utterly inefficient
well lad, we don't see eye to eye in the reason calvin said it, so i'm just going to leave it there. we're not going to get anywhere, and im not going to do the thing that im preaching against
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im not even trying to be a mediator, im just trying to stop the pettyness of the forums bro lol
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your mistake is assuming that anyone who confronts him is doing it because of "past relations you have with this person" instead of actually being upset about what they're seeing. "don't do anything if the situation doesn't concern you" is also a terrible mentality to adopt if you think someone is going through something rough, you're willing to let them suffer on their own instead of doing anything to get them to change the way they behave.
I think it's adding fuel to a fire that wouldn't be that big when you spend a whole page yelling at Calvin for something so trivial
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lono i know ur tryna be the mediator in this situation but it's not working out lol
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asking them to stop is fine, confronting them about it, either trying to get them to stop, or trying to help them out. saying grow up and get a life, especially when the situation doesn't concern you, and you're obviously doing it because of the past relations you have with this person as opposed to being disgusted with their behavor, no matter what you tell yourself, it's adding fuel to the fire.
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i dont think anyone says they deserve it dude, like if u think someone is being toxic tell them to stop, don't justify it by saying they're going through a rough time. "grow up" equates to stop acting childish, it's not as toxic a statement as you're making it out to be
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not that many paragraphs, the lines are just multiplied because of how small these forums are coded. if ppl are too lazy to read anything on this page, they need to work on that
im just trying to let you know that you are fighting fire with fire, and that's not good. especially when the situation had nothing to do with you. just let it be. and no, im not friends with vilden, the last time i talked to him, was in a group chat with dyl in there lol
so many of you guys are so addicted to ur own toxic behaviors that you think its justified by the amount of excuses you tell others and yourself, that they "deserve" it or you're "the victim". let it gooooooo. LET IT GOOOOO. the cold never bothered me anywayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
This is not Vilden acting out because he is "hurting". He is choosing to be vindictive. He doesn't like that Dylan and Krystal are friends, so he is trying to get rid of Dylan. There is absolutely nothing wrong with anyone telling Vilden that the way he is acting is toxic and inappropriate.
"Oh Jeff but you're biased against Vilden so you can't talk!!!"
Before you try that rebuttal just take a step back and realize that Vilden is, in fact, being toxic, petty, and irrational. No one is kicking him while he's down, because he's not down.
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yeah if the alcoholic keeps drinking alcohol then you tell them to stop drinking alcohol and if that doesn't get through to them then you tell them to grow up instead enabling their problem by "leaving them alone"
like i don't know if you're friends with him or not but not confronting him about a clear display of toxic behavior is probably the worst thing you can do if you're his friend.
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so do you just go to that alcoholic and tell them he needs to grow up and get a life? it's a person that's going through something. if you aren't going to take the time to help him out, leave it alone lol
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if you agree that he is doing something wrong and should stop then tell him to stop instead of asking other people to be nice and not ask him to stop, idgi.
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i don't think im pouring salt on his wounds, i don't see where the wound is when you've repeatedly done the same thing over and over again and have been asked to stop doing it but won't.
it's basically the equivalent of letting an alcoholic keep drinking because you're too scared of hurting their feelings by asking them to stop.
