You can say it on EM. Stop trying to make this a police state because you are completely incapable of interpretation and are incredibly over-paranoid.
Google Adsense TOS does not care about singular use, occasional use, moderate use, or even relatively often use of profanity. They certainly don't care about any words you can say on television. They care about context, they care about extreme over use.
"You are a di--" would be acceptable. "Suck my d---" would not be.
Single uses of words are NOT in violation of the TOS.
And what makes even less sense about this is that we've basically accepted that we're not going to be using adsense anymore and will be finding another ad service. GUESS WHAT? Other ad services ARE NOT AS STRICT AS GOOGLE. And Google isn't even this strict.
Use some [redacted] sense, jesus [redacted] christ.