My Experience as a POC in America88

flippingkitties2mon 1d
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This is something that’s been on my mind for a while and I think today’s events definitely showed me that I need to let it out. I’m not the most eloquent person, so I apologize if I word anything in an offensive or hurtful way. That’s not my intention. Also, this post does come from a place of frustration, so I’m going to acknowledge that some of this will come off as aggressive.

Something I’ve noticed a lot especially recently is an insane amount of ignorance and maliciousness. I see people trying to silence people of color for speaking about issues that affect them. I see people only stop being ableist when it hurts relationships with their friends that are more sensitive to certain things. I see people “cancelling” people that aren’t as well liked by the community while standing by when their friends are racist and ableist.

And it’s not okay. It needs to stop.

I don’t want to touch on all of this. I wanted to speak about the microaggressions that people of color deal with every day. Please listen. I know it’s uncomfortable. I know that it’s hard to hear about. But I think it’s necessary when people have shown time and time again that they don’t understand.

I also realize that nobody asked for this. I’m not even sure if anyone will read this. Honestly, the people that are being hurtful probably aren’t going to read this. But for people who want to learn and educate themselves I wanted to share my story along with some others.

I also wanted to say this before I start: I don’t have it as bad as others. I’ve never gone to a store and had someone clutch their purse tighter or had an employee follow me around.

I remember maybe 7 or 8 years ago I was rummaging in my mother’s makeup drawer. I thought it would be fun to put on some eyeliner. And it was. I looked awful, as shown by the picture my father took of me (dm if u want it lol) but that’s not the point of this story. Anyways. I remember finding a tube of Fair & Lovely in the drawer. Part of Indian culture is just being told that lighter skin is more beautiful.

That one incident didn’t leave me with scars, but looking back at it now I’m realized how f*cked up it is. Things like that might not be a huge deal but when everything is consistently made for people of lighter skin it’s frustrating. Nobody wants to feel like they’re different. It might not feel like a huge deal to not have band aids that match your skin tone, to have barbies that don’t look like you, to have people ask to touch your hair. But it’s not just those things. It’s what they represent. It’s realizing that so many people will see you as your skin color before they look at who you really are.

I think a lot of white people don’t realize how much those “little things” mean. They add up. Living in a world where you won’t be systemically oppressed, and you don’t get to experience it, I think it can be hard to empathize. But at least listen. Understand your privilege. Realize that you’re never going to go through it and really listen.

This kind of turned into a ramble and I don’t even know if it makes sense, but I just kind of needed to get it off my chest.

If any other POC want to share their experiences in this thread, please do so. I want this thread to be a safe space for people to speak about their stories if they feel comfortable doing so.

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bansheewhat1mon 28d
unmute stdbrain honestly
Apfel1mon 28d!
jackhammer
stdbrain
racism sucks but lighter skin being desirable in east/south asian culture has nothing to do with racism......... it stems from classism (working in the fields makes u darker vs nobility who dont have to go outside) and literally has nothing to do w white folk lol
i bet you thought this comment was smart but it really isn't. who do you think was "working the fields" during the ~100 years of british colonialism in india? lol

race and class in a colonial system are not mutually exclusive from one another.
Yes, it's not mutually exclusive. Classism plays a bigger role over racism in this aspect. It's probably the main reason why ppl want lighter skin.
milton1mon 28d
i don't live in america, but i occasionally hear racist comments. they usually come from the same few people.
Edark1mon 28d
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bansheewhat
jackhammer
uh no, not really how it works. there are many factors that go into the success of colonialism, between colluding local elites, cultural dynamics, geographic factors, and the spread of diseases, foreign plants and animals from the imperial center to the margin.

this is something i know a decent amount about and have studied rather deeply, so i feel weird commenting about it on an epicmafia forum because i definitely would not be doing it justice. safe to say your generalization is inaccurate, though.
well thanks! i actually do think diseases played a huge factor in america, but the same is not necessarily true for most parts of the globe. i really think local elites played a bigger role than tyrannical overseas overlords in terms of creating these hierarchies that has evolved to become oppressive over time.
How can you so confidently state your opinion when you clearly have no idea what you're talking about?
bansheewhat1mon 26d
Edark
How can you so confidently state your opinion when you clearly have no idea what you're talking about?
my bad *sigh*
Spadez1mon 26d
I'm surprised you weren't muted from this thread yet banshee.
SHERK1mon 26d
Spadez
I'm surprised you weren't muted from this thread yet banshee.
and yet I, a POC, was
bansheewhat1mon 26d
they can't mute me i'm a poc if they mute me they would be racist against non american poc's

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