how many licks does it take to getto the center of
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deciding which poll option to choose
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why it says s'buc
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am i a bad person
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i am not thinking
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anything but reality
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thinking
deletedover 7 years
I think of relationships like a candle flame where the candle wick is how long the relationship will last, water as anything negative that may impact the relationship, and the size and colour of the flame as how deep/passionate the relationship is.
How long these relationships last depend on whether the flame will come back after it is doused with water...
yes this is a recurring theme in my head if you don't like it too bad if you do like it too bad
so i was thinking about how short-lived most relationships are and how love tends to leave after a while. most marriages end in divorce and most romances end in breakups. but not all. whats also interesting is that the more pronounced someone's love is - i.e. the more open and apparently overjoyed someone is about being with someone else - the more likely that love's going to fade and both parties will lose interest in each other.
it seems to me that love is a limited resource and the people who seem to be the most deeply in love tend to expend all of their love at once and quickly run out while people who aren't as crazy about each other tend to expect less and appreciate more over time
i have no idea how accurate any of this is
deletedover 7 years
if it makes you feel better real life friendships leave me feeling empty too
for the longest time ive thought internet friends were better than real life friends because in real life you're limited to your immediate surroundings whereas online you can find people with strikingly similar interests just by going to websites you'd normally go to, the internet is kind of fundamentally designed to connect groups of people by interest so it makes sense that you'd find the most relatable people online
you also stay in contact regardless of where in the world you are so moving away is never an issue and you can talk basically whenever
but ive been doing this for years and i still feel empty and alone and like ive done nothing with my life. sometimes i just want to be held and i cant because theres no one and words just dont provide the comfort i need. it also feels like friendships get old faster online and people drift apart more easily and you wonder if messaging them is just bothering them
i think i was wrong all along
deletedover 7 years
that that
the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
Maybe they want to correct to prove that they could get along with u and want u to see that they are just as smart as u r?
deletedover 7 years
cub can I tell people why it says s'buc? :P
deletedover 7 years
hmmm idk any idioms about this...... at odds with someone? build bridges? on the same wavelength? ...none of them...
cubcubcub
tbh you're cool :3 I wanna be your friend! :3
deletedover 7 years
i just wanna have conversations w u if you are shy to show public interest u can always pm me ^___^ i'm interested in u cause i think ur coding skills make u cool & also you as a person are someone i wanna chat with cause we disagree on a lot of things but on some (imo important) things we agree and so idk it makes me think we could converse & argue easy even if we arent the best of friends. but im the type that doesnt consistently stay in contact so i dont want u to think i lost interest in u its more like i sssuuuck at talking to ppl on the reg cause im aNtIsOcIaL but i will never forget about u cub!!! even if we do not become friends.
im really lonely and all i want out of life is to be with someone and have friends i care for but i cant actually show it and i think that's the only reason anyone has any interest in me
when i am open about making new friends they all prove me right and lose interest and forget about me so the only way to have people care about me is to never actually experience it and im not sure whether this is any different than just having them forget about me
i think this ties in to people not knowing what they want or only wanting what they can't have because as soon as they have it there's no point, the entire point is trying to attain it and actually accomplishing this goal is somehow a bad thing
i wonder if people who cant understand that other people want different things out of life truly desire what they believe they do or if it merely facilitates a greater goal
the greater goal i'll say is happiness
everything you want, you want because it'll make you happy or content. even selflessness leads to contentedness, because although on the surface it seems that being selfish might ultimately feel better, you realize the guilt (if there is any) outweighs any benefit and therefor you want to be without guilt more than you want whatever it is you're sacrificing, so it's still done for your own happiness
i especially dont get people who think accomplishing something is their ultimate goal in life. what does it matter what you accomplish if you feel nothing from it, or if it's done through the work of others? it isn't that you want to accomplish something, it's that you want to feel satisfied with yourself. you just think that accomplishment is the only way to go about that, but that's circular reasoning. the only reason you think this is the only thing that'll give you happiness is because you think this is the only thing that'll give you happiness. you reinforce this thought through believing it, but you have no reason to believe it in the first place
deletedover 7 years
cub i want to be ur friend because i want to have conversaations with you
it's also natural for humans to be violent when things don't go their way but i don't mind saying that's a bad thing
humanity is fallible, but that doesn't mean we should make everything around us equally as fallible. thought itself is pure and although people are inherently subjective, we all recognize that objective truth is the greater truth
you can't turn off instinct, but you can acknowledge and consider how it influences your biases. you may want to punch a hole in the wall when you lose a game, but you can exercise restraint. you may want to judge an argument by the presenter, but you're smart enough to realize that's dishonest
it's not about whether you can, it's about whether you're willing to. people are naturally defensive, even when they're wrong, and use fallacies and dishonesty as a crutch to convince themselves otherwise. what they want to believe doesn't change the truth, and although people may not be able to intimately experience the truth, they are fully capable of acknowledging it
